Dear Godly Spouse...
Draw your two ears 👂👂
Hear me and hear me well!
God is not glorified in an abusive marriage because the relationship between the husband and wife is far from what He commands.
It is okay to pray for your marriage.
It is okay to pray for your spouse.
In fact, Jesus taught us to pray even for those who mistreat us. Prayer is never wasted and is a must.
But please hear me carefully:
Prayer should never replace wisdom. The Bible says that WISDOM IS PROFITABLE TO DIRECT!
If you are being abused in your marriage, wisdom calls for securing your safety first before rehabilitation, repentance or even commitment.
You do not have to remain in the same house with the abuser, the same environment, or within the same proximity as your abuser while hoping things will change.
Seek safety first.
Separation for your safety is not the same as giving up on your marriage. It is wisely securing your safety by creating the space needed to protect life while leaving room for repentance, accountability, and genuine change.
Your life matters. Your health and Mind matters too.
Your children, if you have any, matter too.
You can continue praying for your spouse from a place of safety.
You can trust God without placing yourself in unnecessary danger.
Remember, the prayers you're praying are prayers you want to be alive to see answered.
So don't ignore wisdom. Protect your life first, before seeking help if you still need to.
© Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks ✍️
Marriage & Family Therapist | Best-Selling Author | Founder, The Three Cord Fold Marriage
