‎❤️ 7 THINGS YOU OUGHT TO GIVE YOUR SPOUSE FREELY EVERY SINGLE DAY.

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‎Dear Christian couples, the truth is this:

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‎Many couples are willing to give expensive gifts occasionally, but they neglect the simple things their spouses need daily.

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‎A healthy marriage is not only built on big anniversaries and it is built on small daily investments of love, affection and selflessness.

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‎So here are the seven gifts I strive to give my spouse on daily basis. (So help me Jesus).

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‎1. ✅GIVE YOUR SPOUSE PEACE OF MIND

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‎After a long day at work, business, ministry, or parenting, everybody wants to return to a place of rest.

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‎Your home should be that place.

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‎Not a battlefield.

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‎Not a courtroom.

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‎Not a war zone.

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‎Stop unnecessary insults.

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‎Stop constant criticism.

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‎Stop bringing up old issues every day.

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‎Let your spouse find comfort in your presence.

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‎One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is emotional peace.

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‎2. ✅GIVE YOUR SPOUSE A CALL OR MESSAGE

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‎Never get too busy for the person you claim to love.

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‎A simple:

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‎"How is your day going?"

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‎"Have you eaten?"

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‎"I'm thinking about you."

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‎Can brighten your spouse's entire day.

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‎Many people spend hours chatting with friends and scrolling social media but barely communicate with their spouse.

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‎Don't let that happen.

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‎Small messages build strong connections.

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‎3. ✅GIVE YOUR SPOUSE A SMILE 😄

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‎This one is completely free. et many couples hardly do it.

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‎A smile communicates warmth.

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‎Acceptance.

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‎Friendship.

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‎Affection.

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‎A smiling marriage is usually a healthier marriage.

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‎When couples stop smiling at each other, emotional distance often follows.

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‎So smile more.

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‎Your marriage will become sweeter because of it.

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‎4. ✅GIVE YOUR SPOUSE A NON-SEXUAL TOUCH

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‎Human beings are designed for connection.

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‎A gentle touch can communicate:

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‎"I love you."

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‎"I appreciate you."

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‎"I'm sorry."

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‎"I believe in you."

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‎A touch on the shoulder.

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‎Holding hands.

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‎A warm embrace.

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‎A reassuring pat.

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‎These little gestures strengthen emotional bonds.

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‎If you want more connection in your marriage, become intentional about touch.

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‎5. ✅GIVE YOUR SPOUSE A HUG

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‎Never underestimate the power of a hug.

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‎A hug can communicate what words sometimes cannot.

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‎It says:

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‎"You are safe."

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‎"You are loved."

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‎"You are important to me."

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‎Many people are starved of affection in their marriages.

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‎Don't allow your spouse to become emotionally hungry while living under the same roof with you.

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‎Hug your spouse often.

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‎Hug sincerely.

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‎Hug warmly.

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‎6. ✅GIVE YOUR SPOUSE SOME SPACE

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‎Yes, closeness is important.

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‎But so is personal space.

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‎A healthy marriage balances togetherness and individuality.

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‎Your spouse needs time to think.

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‎Pray.

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‎Rest.

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‎Reflect.

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‎Pursue personal goals.

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‎Stop excessive monitoring.

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‎Stop unnecessary suspicion.

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‎Love does not suffocate.

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‎Love allows room for healthy growth.

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‎7. ✅GIVE YOUR SPOUSE YOUR PRAYER

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‎This may be the most powerful gift of all.

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‎There are battles your spouse may never tell you about.

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‎There are struggles you cannot solve.

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‎There are dangers you cannot see.

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‎But God sees them all.

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‎Pray for your spouse daily.

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‎Mention their name before God.

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‎Pray for their health.

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‎Their purpose.

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‎Their protection.

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‎Their peace.

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‎Their spiritual growth.

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‎A husband who prays for his wife is a blessing.

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‎A wife who prays for her husband is a treasure.

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‎Couples who pray for each other build a spiritual shield around their marriage.

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‎❤️ MY FINAL THOUGHT

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‎Dear husband and wife,

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‎The strongest marriages are often built on simple daily habits:

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‎Peace.

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‎Communication.

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‎Smiles.

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‎Touch.

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‎Hugs.

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‎Space.

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‎And prayer.

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‎These things cost little or nothing.

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‎But they can transform a marriage completely.

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‎Remember:

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‎What you consistently give your spouse today is often what you will enjoy tomorrow.

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‎Invest daily in your marriage. The rewards are priceless.

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‎If this message blessed you, kindly share it. Someone may need this marriage wisdom.

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‎Our marriages will not fail in Jesus' name.

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‎© Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks ✍️

‎Marriage & Family Therapist | Best-Selling Author | Founder, The Three Cord Fold Marriage

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Behaviours My Igbo Sisters should stop tolerating from their husbands

 

My dear African (Igbo) women in particular.

Stop accepting disrespectful behaviours from your Igbo men. These men understand what it takes to be a man when dealing with a white women. 

I lived over 20 good years in Africa and 9 years in Europe and can categorically tell you that;

An African man knows how to come home after work when dealing with a white woman. 

An African (Igbo) man knows not to yell when dealing with a white woman. 

An African (Igbo) man knows how to vacuum the house when dealing with a white woman. 

An African (Igbo) man knows how to cook when dealing with a white woman. 

An African man knows that he shouldn’t ch£@t when dealing with a white woman. They forget polygamy 😆 

An African (Igbo) man knows how to take the children and dogs for a walk when dealing with a white woman. 

An African (Igbo) man knows how to buy flowers 💐 and make a date reservation when dealing with a white woman. 

An African man doesn't forget important events like birthday, graduation, children's needs when dealing with a white woman.

An African (Igbo) man is smart enough to differentiate between bare minimum and princess treatment when dealing with a white woman. 

Their n@rcissistic tendencies only germinate when dealing with you. That's why they think "they are the price"

They truly understand partnership when dealing with a white woman. 

The king's mentality or grandiose self only heightened when dealing with you.

It could be that your worth as a woman wasn't pronounced to you as a young woman, but I'm here to let you know that you are worth more than the bare minimum. 

You're valuable, you're priceless, you're unique and deserve a love and partnership with someone who sees your values from day one. 

You deserve a man who uplifts you. Not someone who sees you as below him. You deserve someone who supports you in building a family. You deserve someone willing to love you as loud as you deserve. 

That African man isn't dųmb, he just selects who to be lovely to. Stop accepting the bare minimum. 

You deserve a real partnership and not slav£ry. If he has to depl£te you, he's not loving you. If he has to dr@in you, he's not loving you. 

If he has to watch you cook, clean, sxxx, and feed the children while he plays video games, he's not loving you.

Love doesn't drain, it nourishes, uplifts, and takes you closer to God.

You deserve love, the kind of love, Christ has for the church. Ephesians 5:25

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‎10 RULES That’ll Make Your Marriage Stronger.

‎Calm down and read till the end👇. You'd come back to thank me later.

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‎Let me be honest with you — marriage is beautiful and a huge blessing if done properly, but it is not easy. It doesn’t magically run itself; successful marriages weren't achieved on autopilot system.

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‎It grows when the two people involved are intentional partners. It thrives when both the husband and wife are willing to show up, even on the days when it feels inconvenient. One always willing to carry the other when he or she is down as they both journey together.

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‎Here are ten things that genuinely make a marriage stronger, from my heart to yours:

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‎1️⃣ Communication is Beyond Just Words.

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‎It’s not just about talking — it’s about understanding the person you chose.

‎It’s learning to hear them even on their quiet days.

‎It’s choosing clarity over assumptions.

‎The more both of you learn to express your needs without ego, the smoother the love flows.

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‎2️⃣ Giving Each Other a Safe Space and a Safe Haven.

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‎A healthy marriage should feel like home, not a battlefield.

‎When your partner can be honest, vulnerable, imperfect — without fear — trust grows on its own.

‎Emotional safety is the backbone of intimacy. Without it, everything else struggles.

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‎3️⃣ Choosing Collaborative Partnership Over Competition

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‎You’re on the same team, not opponents trying to score points.

‎Marriage works best when you support each other instead of trying to “win” arguments.

‎Two people who build together will always thrive together.

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‎4️⃣ Honouring Each Other's Boundaries.

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‎Strong marriages don’t suffocate.

‎They respect personal space, individuality, and emotional limits.

‎Boundaries aren’t barriers — they’re guides.

‎And they keep the love healthy, balanced, and respectful. You don't intentionally push each other's buttons and even when you mistakenly do so, you are quick to sincerely apologize and make amends.

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‎5️⃣ Keep Your Friendship as a Couple Alive.

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‎At the end of the day, beyond romance and responsibilities, you’re companions.

‎Laugh together, play together, gist, explore, stay curious about each other.

‎Friendship is what keeps the connection alive when life gets serious.

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‎6️⃣ How to Love Your Partner the Way They Understand It and Want To Be Loved.

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‎One thing I’ve realized is this: it’s not enough to love someone your own way. People feel love differently—some need words, some need time, some need support, some need touch.

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‎Marriage becomes easier when both partners stop assuming and start paying attention.

‎Speak the language that enters their heart, not the one that’s convenient for you.

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‎7️⃣ Mutual Respect Always Beats Romance.

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‎Romance is sweet, but respect is the real deal ... The Core Foundation. It shows in how you speak, how you listen, how you disagree, and how you prioritize each other.

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‎When respect is present, even arguments are healthier.When it’s absent, everything else becomes heavy.

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‎Let respect lead—the marriage will follow.

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‎8️⃣ The Power of Choosing Each Other Daily.

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‎Marriage isn’t a one-day (wedding day) vow. It’s a daily “YES I DO.”

‎Some days it’s natural, other days you choose intentionally.

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‎But showing up again and again — to listen, support, forgive, and grow — that’s what keeps the bond solid.Consistency will always be louder than intensity.

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‎9️⃣ Build Emotional Intimacy Beyond Only Physical Touch.

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‎Physical intimacy is beautiful and even very important, but emotional intimacy is the glue. It’s the late-night conversations, the little check-ins, the laughter, the honesty.

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‎When emotional intimacy is strong, everything else flows with ease.You don’t just love each other — you understand each other.

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‎🔟 Learn How to Handle Conflict Without Breaking Each Other. Remember when life gets really difficult, your only sure bet to victory is by going on your knees and asking God for mercy.

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‎Conflict is part of marriage, but destruction doesn’t have to be.

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‎Healthy conflict looks like breathing before reacting, choosing your words, addressing the issue instead of attacking the person, and remembering you’re fighting for the marriage, not against each other.

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‎Peace is learned — it doesn’t just happen. Learn it by daily practice.

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‎©️ Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks ✍️

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A Very Short Story About My Life Now... 🥴😩😰

 

‎I’m in that phase of my life when I have to wake up by 5am and prepare my kids for school runs.

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‎As a lover of my sleep time I recall when I used to be the one being woken up. Breakfast would have been prepared, and we’d get to school before 7.50am, everyday. We were perpetual early comers and this is one trait that has lived with me.

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‎Hubby and I wake up every single day of the week by 5am or earlier to do school runs preparations. Joggling toddlers is no small play, especially those of us with three or more little children. While hubby bath and dresses the kids, I prepare their lunch and feed them/ supervise their breakfast for the one that are morning slow eaters😏.

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‎We get back in the evening to face yet another round of parent duty resumes. I can only breathe a sigh of relief when they go to bed by 8pm or slightly later.

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‎On most days after the children have gone to bed I am extremely exhausted and the only thing my body and my brain craves is my bed and a good night sleep 😔.

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‎The work if parenting is a lot. It’s exhausting sometimes. And this is me who works hand in hand with a man who’s is equally as hands-on as I am.

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Faith, Finances & the Future: Building a God-Honoring Lifestyle While Waiting for Love.

Why Financial Wisdom Is a Form of Spiritual Preparation

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‎Financial maturity is vital for preparing for Godly marriage. As a single woman, the way you steward your income reflects your trust in God. Christian financial stewardship involves tithing, saving, budgeting, and planning without fear.

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‎Saving and Spending with Purpose as a Single Woman

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‎Your money habits now will follow you into marriage. Start by:

Reasons Why You Shouldn't Watch Porn as a Christian and Godly Couple

You can’t claim to be be a Christian couple, and watching po*n to learn sex. No. You can’t learn sex in its holy sanctity as intended by the God you claim to live and serve from depraved demonic expressions. You can’t learn to please God from the devil. Porn is demonic; full stop! 

It is the one of the worst perversion of sex. You’re destroying yourself and your marriage, and that’s unfaithfulness in every possible and impossible way of the highest order. Both to God and your partner.

Often times, we attribute unfaithfulness to one partner cheating on the other. However, watching porn together as a couple or engaging in sexual acts that include a third party, is unfaithfulness to God, because a godly marriage consist of three people: you, your partner and God. 

More like fighting a Godly battle with the devil's strategy or armour.

So in all you do, you must be faithful to Jesus. Because I'm aware of the conversation around porn helping people with their sexual lives, but again I ask, how do you learn how to be clean from a dirty pig?

So how can you a Christian, is watching two or more satanic agents of end time mass destruction committing fornication in such an unrealistic, shameless and distorted way, to learn sex in all its sacredness for implementation in your marriage? This is highly morally inconsistent according to biblical precepts. You can’t save your marriage with the soiled hands of sin.

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Are you tired of feeling unfulfilled and unsure of how to take control of your life? As a woman, it's essential to master certain areas to achieve success, happiness, and confidence. In this video, we'll dive into the 6 crucial aspects every woman must focus on to unlock her full potential. From self-care and personal growth to relationships and career development, we'll cover it all. Get ready to transform your life and become the best version of yourself!

Is Achieving Balance as a Wife and Mother Actually Ever Possible

Mastering life as a wife and mother can be a challenging yet rewarding experience. In this video, we'll dive into the essential skills and mindset shifts needed to balance your roles, prioritize self-care, and cultivate a sense of fulfillment and purpose. From time management and communication tips to setting boundaries and practicing self-compassion, we'll cover it all. Join us as we explore the art of mastering life as a wife and mother, and discover the secrets to living a happy, healthy, harmonious and balanced life.

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Telling My Story as a Pastor's Wife... My Unique Experience and Journey So Far

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As a pastor's wife, the journey I’ve walked has been filled with both triumphs and challenges, each moment shaping me in ways I never anticipated. The title of “pastor’s wife” often carries with it an aura of reverence and expectation—one that can feel both empowering and overwhelming. But behind the pulpit, beyond the public prayers and sermons, is a story not often told. This book is my attempt to share that story.

The Behind the Pulpit Story of a Pastor’s Wife: Navigating the Balance of Faith, Family, and Ministry is an intimate reflection of my personal journey. It unveils the complexities of living in the delicate space between being a wife, a mother, and a partner in ministry. It sheds light on the unique challenges we face—balancing the demands of a family with the needs of a congregation, remaining steadfast in faith while navigating moments of doubt, and managing the unseen emotional toll that comes with walking alongside a leader in the church.

In these pages, you will discover my experiences, struggles, and the moments of grace that have helped me persevere. I share these insights not only for those who walk in similar shoes but also for those who wish to understand the heart behind the pulpit—the woman who stands in the shadow of the one delivering the message, and yet is called to a ministry of her own.

My hope is that this book will offer encouragement, understanding, and strength to all who read it—whether you are a pastor’s wife, a church member, or simply someone interested in the complexities of faith, family, and service. This journey is not easy, but it is rewarding beyond measure. Through it all, I have come to realize that it is possible to find harmony between the sacred and the everyday, and that faith, family, and ministry can exist in beautiful balance.

Thank you for joining me on this journey. I pray that you find strength, inspiration, and hope as you navigate your own path, wherever it may lead.Through heartfelt anecdotes, poignant reflections, and sincere revelations, this book offers a glimpse into the often overlooked complexities and blessings woven into the fabric of a pastor's wife's life. It is a tribute to the silent strength and unwavering commitment of these women as they navigate the delicate balance of serving their families, supporting their spouses, and nurturing their own spiritual aspirations.

Two Major Secrets That Helped My Husband and I To Achieve Christian Courtship and Ultimately Kingdom Marriage

 Are you a Christian Single Lady or Gentleman who's just gotten into a courtship or relationship with marriage in view for you and your partner and you both desire to enjoy a Kingdom dating process that will ultimately lead to Kingdom Marriage and purpose but you both are wondering how to go about with it then this video is for you. 

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Dear Single Lady Are You Entertaining A Time Waster In The Name of a Long Term Relationship

 Dear Single ladies,

How long do you think is reasonable enough to wait for a relationship to move from one stage to another? That is to transit from courtship/dating to marriage 

I hope you know there is a difference between patience and time wasting🤷🏻? 

In my own opinion I'd say anything between 12 months to 24 months max is more than enough for you to know with certainty the directional compass of your existing relationship.

Notice I didn't use the term years but months because for most serious matured men wanting to settle down and build a home, even as little as one month or less is enough for them to know within them if they want to get married to you someday and it's usually evident in their subtle actions and words from day to day. 

The only problem is that most of us ladies are too carried away with the euphoria of love and being in a relationship with just anyone that we hardly pay attention to signs and details.

Time is of essence to any woman that desire to marry. Let nobody deceive you thereby wasting precious years of your life. 

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9 core life lessons 98 percent of men learn rather too late in life.

 

Life has a way of teaching everyone lessons, but unfortunately, many men realize some or most of the very important ones a little too late in life.

Whether it’s about relationships, success, or self-growth, these insights often come after years of trial and error—and sometimes after it’s too late to fully benefit from them.

In this article, we’ll uncover 9 key lessons that, according to psychology, 98 percent of men only learn later in life.

By understanding these truths early, you can save yourself from regret and set yourself up for a more fulfilling and meaningful journey.

Let’s dive in.

1) Acknowledging and expressing your own emotions

Speaking from the perspective of a close observer of the male gender, it’s no secret that they often struggle with acknowledging and expressing our emotions. This is a societal norm that’s been embedded in them from a young age.

The mantra “boys don’t cry” has done more harm than good. It’s a psychological fact that suppressing emotions can lead to an array of mental health issues, including depression and anxiety.

According to psychology, many men only learn the importance of being open about their feelings later in life. They realize that expressing emotions isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather a fundamental aspect of mental health and wellbeing.

Reflecting on this, it becomes apparent that acknowledging and expressing feelings are crucial for emotional growth. It’s high time we break the societal norms holding us back and embrace emotional honesty. This is an essential lesson I wish more men would learn sooner rather than later.

2) Life isn’t a competition but a complimentary journey 

I have to admit, for a good portion of my life, I was caught up in the rat race. Climbing corporate ladders, chasing promotions, always wanting to be the best – it felt like life was a never-ending competition.

But one thing that psychology points out, and which I’ve personally experienced, is that this sense of constant competition often leads to burnout and dissatisfaction.

Eventually, I realized that my worth wasn’t defined by how much better I was than someone else. It wasn’t about being ahead or behind. It was about my journey, my growth, and my happiness.

This was a game-changer for me. I started focusing less on competing and more on contributing. I began to value collaboration over competition and found that this brought more fulfilment and joy into my life.

It’s a lesson I wish I’d learned earlier, and it’s something that 98 percent of men realize too late: Life isn’t a competition. We’re all on unique paths, and the only person you should be comparing yourself to is who you were yesterday.

3) The importance of self-care (without becoming selfish)

Contrary to popular belief, self-care isn’t just for women. It’s an integral part of maintaining physical, mental, and emotional health. Yet, many men often push it to the back burner, prioritizing work and other commitments.

Studies reveals a startling trend: men are less likely to seek help for mental health issues or stress management compared to women. This reluctance often stems from societal stereotypes that associate self-care with femininity.

However, the reality is that neglecting self-care can lead to long-term health issues. Studies have shown that chronic stress can result in conditions like heart disease, high blood pressure, and diabetes.

4) The power of living in the present moment

In our fast-paced lives, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of future plans and past regrets. But, according to Buddhism, one of the fundamental truths is the importance of living in the present moment.

This is a concept I delve deeper into in my book, Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego. The teachings of Buddha emphasize that the present moment is all we truly have. By focusing on it, we can achieve mindfulness, which in turn leads to a heightened sense of peace and contentment.

Unfortunately, most men realize this truth too late in life. We spend our youth chasing after future goals or dwelling on past mistakes, forgetting to enjoy and appreciate what’s right in front of us.

The art of mindfulness and staying present isn’t just a philosophical concept but a psychologically proven technique to reduce stress and enhance mental health. It’s a powerful life lesson that can transform our perspective towards life if learned early enough.

5) It’s okay to ask for help in times of need 

Asking for help isn’t always easy. For a long time, I thought I had to do everything myself. I prided myself on my independence and self-reliance. But in truth, this mindset left me feeling overwhelmed and isolated.

The reality is, no man is an island. We all need support, whether it’s emotional, mental, or physical. There’s no shame in admitting you’re struggling and need help. In fact, it takes courage to let down your guard and reveal your vulnerability.

Many men only learn this later in life, often after shouldering burdens alone for far too long. But the sooner we realize that it’s okay to ask for help, the healthier and happier we will be. It’s a sign of strength to acknowledge our limitations and seek assistance when needed.

10 things Wise and Sensible people always keep private.

There’s a significant distinction between being an open book and maintaining a healthy sense of privacy.

The contrast boils down to discretion. Keeping certain things private doesn’t mean being secretive, but rather valuing your own peace of mind and personal space.

According to reliable studies, wise people have a habit of keeping some things to themselves. This isn’t about hiding or being dishonest, but choosing wisely what to reveal and what not to.

This article will unveil the 10 things that smart people always keep private. If you’re keen on cultivating a smart and balanced approach to sharing and privacy, keep on reading!

1) Personal life details

There’s a fine line between sharing and over sharing, especially when it comes to personal life details.

Wise people understand this boundary well. They realize that not every aspect of their personal life needs to be public knowledge.

Even the scriptures supports this approach. Research shows that maintaining a level of privacy around personal matters can contribute to mental well-being and relationship health.

Instead of spilling every detail about their private lives, smart people selectively choose what to share and with whom. This doesn’t mean they are secretive or dishonest, but rather, they value their own privacy and respect others’ as well.

2) Their next move

Let me share a personal example of this point.

Not too long ago, I was preparing for a significant career change. I had been planning it for months, researching, assessing my skill sets, and even secretly taking relevant courses.

But here’s the thing: I didn’t announce it to everyone around me. Even some of my closest friends were unaware until I had taken the leap.

There’s a reason for this. Wise people often keep their future plans to themselves. They understand that sharing every detail of their next move can invite unwanted opinions, unnecessary pressure or even create competitive situations.

Instead, they prefer to work quietly, focusing on their goals and only sharing once they’ve achieved them. It’s not about being secretive; it’s about maintaining focus, reducing distractions, and allowing space for flexibility in their plans.

3) Financial status

Talking about money has always been a bit of a social taboo. However, wise people take it a step further by keeping their financial status private.

Studies have shown that discussing finances can lead to comparisons, competition, and even stress.

Interestingly, a study conducted by Kansas State University found that arguments about money are the top predictor of divorce, beating out conflicts about children, sex, and in-laws.

Keeping your financial status private doesn’t just make you smart; it could potentially save your relationships too. Keep those bank statements and paychecks to yourself – it’s a smarter way to live.

4) Personal core beliefs and indoctrinations:

Personal beliefs, whether they be about religion, politics, or social issues, are often deeply ingrained and can be a source of conflict when confronted with opposing views.

Wise people, aware of this potential for conflict, tend to keep their personal beliefs private. They understand the importance of maintaining respectful boundaries and fostering an environment of acceptance and openness.

This isn’t about hiding who you are or what you believe in. It’s about choosing the appropriate time and place to share these beliefs, and recognizing when it might be more beneficial to listen rather than speak.

After all, in a world full of diverse perspectives, sometimes the smartest thing to do is to simply respect that diversity without feeling the need to challenge it.

5) Family problems

Every family has its share of problems and challenges. Smart people understand that airing these issues publicly isn’t always the best course of action.

Publicizing family issues can lead to unnecessary drama, misunderstandings, or even add fuel to the fire. It can also impact the trust and privacy of other family members involved.

Instead, smart people choose to handle family problems within the family. They seek solutions privately, involving only those who can constructively contribute to resolving the issue.

Maintaining a level of discretion when it comes to family matters is both respectful and wise. It’s not about masking the problem, but about dealing with it in a more contained and effective manner.

6) Past mistakes

We’ve all made mistakes, haven’t we? Some small, some big, and some that we wish we could erase from our memory. It’s an inevitable part of being human.

Wise people understand that while these past mistakes have shaped who they are today, they don’t necessarily need to be shared with the world. They know that everyone has their own journey and struggles.

Instead of dwelling on the past or using it as a conversation topic, smart people learn from their past mistakes and move forward. They focus on evolving and bettering themselves. They choose to define themselves not by their past errors, but by their present actions and future aspirations.

Your past does not define you. It’s okay to keep your past mistakes to yourself and let your actions speak for who you are today. After all, we’re all works in progress, constantly learning and growing.

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