Showing posts with label Motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Motherhood. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 14, 2024

The Inherent Dangers of Having Third Parties Intrude Into the Lives and Affairs of a Married Couple.

Once upon a time, there was a happily married couple, Alex and Sarah. They had built a life together, filled with love, trust, and mutually shared dreams. However, their idyllic world was soon disrupted by the intrusion of third parties.

First, it was the relentless interference of Sarah's overbearing mother, who constantly criticized Alex and undermined their relationship. She would meddle in their affairs, offer unsolicited advice, and fuel Sarah's doubts about their marriage.

Then, there was Alex's ambitious coworker, who seemed too eager to spend time with him outside of work. Slowly, their professional relationship crossed boundaries, leading to emotional intimacy that Alex hadn't realized was developing.

As tensions rose between Alex and Sarah due to these outside influences, communication broke down. Instead of confiding in each other, they sought solace elsewhere, confiding in their respective confidants.

Sarah's mother, seeing an opportunity to drive a wedge between them, exacerbated every disagreement, painting Alex as the villain. Meanwhile, Alex found himself drawn to his coworker's attention, seeking validation that he felt was lacking at home.

Caught in this web of external pressures and internal strife, Alex and Sarah drifted further apart. Resentment festered, trust eroded, and the once unbreakable bond between them began to crumble.

Ultimately, the marriage reached a breaking point. Hurt and disillusioned, Alex and Sarah realized that the intrusion of third parties had irreparably damaged what they had once cherished. Despite their efforts to salvage their relationship, the damage was too extensive, and they were left with no choice but to part ways.

In the end, Alex and Sarah learned a painful lesson about the fragility of marriage and the destructive power of outside influences. Their story serves as a cautionary tale, reminding us of the importance of protecting the sanctity of marriage from the harmful interference of third parties.

Certainly there are ways to avoid this sort of pitfall in marriage! Here are some practical ways married couples can strengthen their bond and trust, reducing the likelihood of intrusion from third parties. Here are about ten (10) of them listed:

1. **Open Communication**: Foster an environment where both partners feel comfortable expressing their thoughts, feelings, and concerns openly and honestly. Regularly check in with each other and actively listen without judgment.

Friday, May 10, 2024


On your mark! Get set! Ready! Go!
The athletes were running their marathon race and they were all determined to reach the finish line.

They continued running, even when they had been overtaken, they believed there was hope for them to win, therefore they continued to run with full speed and energy.

Temi was the one who represented Nigeria at the Olympic game this year. She has records of great achievements in sports.

But Temi was seen among those who were behind in the marathon race and others were already ahead of them.

Temi thought about all the time and efforts that she has sacrificed during the training for this Olympic game.

She remembered how she had worked hard in silence, both day and night.

 She remembered how her family and friends had forsaken her, because she showed interest in sports.

Her father had wanted her to read Medicine and become a surgeon and was disappointed when Temi informed him of her plans.

She knew many people were waiting patiently to hear that she failed. Temi looked at those who were already ahead of her and said to herself "I will overtake you all".

Temi breathed in and out, and suddenly began to run with full energy. She was looking at the finished line and was determined that she would get there first.

The audience were surprised and were screaming excitedly, when Temi overtook all the other athletes that were ahead of her and was running speedily and behold she got to the finish line first.

The audience were wondering how she was able to do it. She moved from way behind ... the twenty-fifth position to the very first position.

There was joy everywhere and Temi said to herself "Yes, I did it!", "I finally did it!".


Tuesday, May 7, 2024

The Atkins Diet for Beginners: A Step-by-Step Guide:

The Atkins diet, developed by Dr. Robert Atkins, is a low-carb, high-protein and fat eating plan that focuses on weight loss. It has gained popularity for its effectiveness and emphasis on feeling full and satisfied while eating. If you're new to the Atkins diet, here's a detailed breakdown to get you started:

Understanding the Basics:

Carbs are Key: The Atkins diet restricts carbohydrates, which are the body's primary source of energy. By limiting carbs, the goal is to shift your body towards burning fat for fuel, a process called ketosis.
Protein and Fat are Friends: Protein and healthy fats become the mainstays of your diet. They provide satiety (feeling full), help maintain muscle mass, and contribute to sustained energy levels.
The Atkins Phases:

The Atkins diet progresses through four distinct phases, each with varying levels of carb intake:

Thursday, May 2, 2024

The Ups and Downs of Having a New Baby For a New Couple

Having a baby changes everything. One minute you're living your best life, going out with friends, staying up late, and the next you're covered in spit-up, running on 2 hours of sleep, and your social life is pretty much non-existent. But you know what? It's all worth it.

The first few weeks after bringing home a newborn are a total whirlwind. You're running on pure adrenaline and caffeine, trying to figure out this whole parenting thing. Simple tasks like showering or eating a meal become major accomplishments. And forget about keeping a clean house - laundry and dishes pile up while you're busy staring at your baby's perfect little face.

But slowly, you start to find your groove. The sleepless nights get a little better, the crying fits become fewer and farther between. You learn your baby's cues and how to soothe them. And you realize that all the hard stuff is so worth it when your little one gives you that first big, gummy smile. Suddenly, your heart is so full it feels like it might burst.

Sure, life is more complicated now. Date nights require planning, and trips to the grocery store are a military operation. But the love you feel for this tiny human is unlike anything you've ever experienced. They become the center of your world, and you wouldn't have it any other way.

Having a baby is a total game-changer for couples. Your life gets turned upside down in the best way possible. Suddenly, it's not just about you and your partner anymore - there's this tiny human who is totally dependent on you.

The first few months are a whirlwind of feedings, diaper changes, and zero sleep. You're running on fumes, but the love you feel for this little person makes it all worth it. Watching them grow and reach those important milestones is the most rewarding thing ever.

Of course, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. There are definitely challenges that come with becoming parents. Learning to balance your relationship, work, and family life takes some serious adjusting. But you find a way to make it work because your top priority is giving your child the best life possible.

At the end of the day, having a baby brings couples closer together in a way you can't even imagine until you experience it. It's a wild ride, but one that fills your heart to the brim.

Friday, April 26, 2024


- Relieves Stomach Ulcers:
Bitter leaf has strong anti oxidants that are good for protecting the walls of the stomach. That’s why bitter leaf can be used to treat stomach ulcers. 

- Treats Malaria:
Bitter leaf has abundant amount of quinine in it. That is a natural anti malarial drug. 

- Cures Fungal Infections:
Bitter leaf has strong anti fungal properties. You can apply its paste on the skin infections to treat your fungal infections.

- Treats Skin Conditions:
Bitter leaf paste can treat your skin problems like eczema, psoriasis, ringworms etc. 

- Treats Typhoid Fever:
The flavonoids present in bitter lead are strong antioxidants and are helpful in treating fever. 

Thursday, April 25, 2024


Dear Woman:
● changes her name
● changes her lifestyle and sometimes identity.
● changes her home.
● leaves her family.
● moves in with you.
● builds a home with you.
● gets pregnant for you, most times more than twice and the pregnancy process changes her body forever.
● she gains weight
● almost gives up in the labour room due to the unbearable pain of childbirth.
● even the children she delivers bear your name...

A Mother's Untold Story

When a woman becomes prΓ©gnant, which is a difficult stage of a woman's life yet she had this confidence that after prΓ©gnancy she will be free and relieved.

After giving birth, nursing her little baby wasn't an easy job. 

She so much looked forward to getting past that stage as a bréÑstféeding Mom

The sleepless nights, anxiety, body pain and general stress was much to deal with but she said again "once my baby starts crawling and  moving around I will be free"

Finally, the baby starts walking and moving about

She heaved a a sigh of relief thinking it will be far easier but she was wrong again

Watching and monitoring the kids so they won't swallow pin or even hΓΌrt their selves while moving about becomes the job of the day

Toddler stage arrives and the shouting progressed

"Don't touch that

"Don't go there

"Don't put that in your mouth

"Don't climb

"Stop running around before you fall

"I will spank you if you tear that book, drop it back 

And then he tears the book and start giggling happily

You look at him unknowing what to do

You gather up the pieces of the mess and throw away.

They never stop making mess and you never stop cleaning.

You become worried when they're off to school and can't wait for them to be home and once they're home you can't stop shouting and threatening

Even your threats are taken for granted and when you spank them finally you will still beg them to stop crying.

Does any of this parenting stage gets any easier? You keep asking but the answer is not quite.

Interestingly she may have to have to repeat this process or cycle for as many times as she visits the delivery room.

No, it doesn't because even when they are grown and off to the university or even married their safety and good connection becomes another prayer points.

Just do your best and let God take care of the rest.

It doesn't get easier but it does gets better and sweeter ❤❤️❤️ 

A Peep Leak into the Life of an African Mother Like Me 🀱

Today I was privileged to record a short clips of how my kids and I roll everyday they come back home from school. Their dramas and tantrums and everything in between πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚.



I guess you never know most of them 🀷

(1) If you don't want your seasoning cubes to get soft and start bringing out water....add garri to the container where you put your seasoning cubes. It will remain strong and fresh. 

(2) Don't throw away your left over pounded yam. Dry it and crush it. After its dried then use it to eat beans....its a great taste.

(3) if your pot of soup sour or changes taste. Put 2-3 pieces of charcoal in it and warm very will recover the delicious taste of it again.

If your shoe is smelly....add piece of charcoal, it will absorb the smell.

Young Intending Couples Must Discuss What Works Best For Them.

Dear young unmarried woman. Please note that there are no norms or common practice or universally accepted way of doing marriage especially in this part of the world.

Whatever traits or beliefs that you've noticed in your intended partner that doesn't sit well with you, make sure you discuss it immediately and trash it out with modalities and agreements between you both as it suits the uniqueness of your relationship.

“I saw my mother be@ting my father” is not a norm!

“I grew up watching my mother kneeling down to serve my father” is not a norm! 

Tuesday, October 10, 2023

Best Marriage Advice EVER ... ✍🏾

Below are evergreen 'rules of advice' on how to prayerfully work out the marriage of your dreams πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡πŸ™

1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.

2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling. When possible, try to keep your phone off when you're together with your spouse.

3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the "currency of relationships," so consistently invest time into your marriage.

4. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.

5. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy. And even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.

6. In every argument, remember that there won't be a "winner" and a "loser." You're partners in everything so you'll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

7. Realize that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It's usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.

8. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it's nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

9. Remember that marriage isn't 50/50— divorce is 50/50. Marriage has to be 100/100. It's not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they've got.

10. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you've given your best to everyone else.

Monday, July 17, 2023

Marital Romance: Reigniting the Spark

Table of Contents:

• Introduction • The Importance of Keeping the Flame Alive • Sparking Communication and Connection • Keeping the Passion Alive • Spontaneity: A Secret Ingredient • The Power of Date Nights • The Role of Fun and Laughter • Conclusion


Every marriage starts with a spark, but over time, that spark may fade away into the abyss of daily routines and responsibilities. Marital romance is like a delicate flower that needs nurturing to bloom. So, let's dive into the world of rekindling that once fiery connection. Because who needs boring, monotonous relationships, right? Let's bring back the thrill and excitement into our lives! But before we jump into the how-to's, let's discuss why romance is significant and the benefits of keeping that fiery passion alive. Remember, a hint of sarcasm and a touch of humor go a long way in engaging the readers. Let the journey begin!

The Importance of Keeping the Flame Alive

Marriage, the land where love blossoms and passion thrives...or so they say. But let's face it, over time, the spark can fizzle out like a deflated balloon. Suddenly, those candlelit dinners and whispered sweet nothings are replaced with discussions about chores and mundane everyday tasks. Romance, my friends, is the magic ingredient that keeps the fire burning in a marriage. So, why is romance so important, you ask? First and foremost, romance is the glue that holds a marriage together. It brings excitement, joy, and a sense of connection. It reminds both partners why they fell in love in the first place. Without romance, a marriage can become dull and lifeless, much like a black and white movie on repeat. A strong romantic connection also comes with a host of benefits. It boosts happiness levels, reduces stress, and improves overall well-being. The more romance in a marriage, the merrier! Imagine batting your eyelashes and feeling like you're floating on cloud nine every single day. Ah, the bliss! On the flip side, neglecting romance can be dangerous terrain. It can lead to feelings of resentment, boredom, and even a wandering eye. Neglecting romance is like ignoring a plant until it withers away. Don't let your marriage wither away, my friends. Nurture it with love, attention, and a healthy dose of romance. Now that we've established the importance of keeping the flame alive, it's time to dive into the juicy details of how to reignite that spark. So buckle up, folks, because we're about to embark on a journey of love, laughter, and maybe a few whipped cream mishaps. After all, life is too short for bland, spiceless marriages!

Sparking Communication and Connection

Ah, marital romance! The elusive spark that seems to dwindle with each passing year. But fear not, dear reader, for I am here to guide you on the mystical journey of reigniting that long-lost flame. So, grab your partner's hand (unless they're holding a hot cup of coffee, in which case, wait for an opportune moment), and let's dive into the world of sparking communication and connection. Finding time for meaningful conversations is like finding a needle in a haystack, especially when you have busy schedules and endless distractions. But fret not, for where there's a will, there's a way. Try setting aside dedicated time each day to talk about your day, dreams, and desires. And no, discussing your favorite TV show while scrolling through Twitter doesn't count as meaningful conversation. Put those gadgets away and engage in some good old-fashioned face-to-face interaction. Remember, eye contact is not a myth! Now, let's talk about rediscovering shared interests and activities. Remember those hobbies you used to do together before life got in the way? It's time to dust them off and bring them back to life. Whether it's cooking, hiking, or playing board games, find something that both of you enjoy and make it a regular part of your routine. And for the love of all things romantic, please don't choose something that only one of you enjoys (I'm looking at you, golf enthusiasts). But wait, there's more! Trying new things together can add that much-needed spark to your relationship. And no, I'm not suggesting skydiving or deep-sea diving (unless you're into that sort of thing). It can be as simple as trying a new recipe together or exploring a different part of your city. The key here is to step out of your comfort zone and create new experiences together. Who knows, you might discover a hidden talent or a shared passion that reignites the fire in your hearts. So, dear reader, remember that communication and connection are the key ingredients for a successful and passionate marriage. Take the time to have meaningful conversations, rediscover shared interests, and try new things together. And don't forget to sprinkle some laughter and sarcasm along the way (because let's face it, life's too short to be serious all the time). Now go forth and reignite that spark like a flaming phoenix rising from the ashes of daily routines!

Keeping the Passion Alive

Let's dive into the fiery world of keeping the passion alive in a marriage, shall we? Because what's a marriage without a little sizzle and spice? Here are some key points to maintain that steamy connection with your partner. First and foremost, let's talk about embracing physical intimacy. And no, I'm not just talking about a quick peck on the cheek as you rush out the door. We're talking about making time for passionate moments that leave you both breathless, tangled in each other's arms. Take the time to explore each other's desires and fulfill those intimate fantasies that float around in your minds. Trust me, it'll light a fire you didn't even know existed. Now, let's venture into the realm of exploring fantasies and role-playing. Yes, I know it might sound a bit silly or even awkward at first, but trust me when I say it can take your connection to a whole new level. Get adventurous and step into different characters, allowing yourselves to indulge in the playful and seductive side of your imagination. Surprise each other with outfits, scenarios, and a healthy dose of imagination. Who said marriage had to be predictable, right? And finally, let's not forget the power of surprising each other with gestures of affection. It's the little things that count, after all! Leave sweet notes hidden in unexpected places, prepare a romantic dinner just because, or surprise them with a spontaneous weekend getaway. Show your partner that they're still the most important person in your life and that you're willing to go the extra mile to keep the love alive. So, dear readers, remember the three golden keys to keeping the passion alive: embracing physical intimacy, exploring fantasies and role-playing, and surprising each other with gestures of affection. With these tools in your arsenal, there's no doubt that the sparks will continue to fly in your marriage. Now, let's move forward and uncover the secret ingredient for keeping the flame alive: spontaneity. Because who likes a predictable and monotonous relationship? Not us! Stay tuned for the next chapter, where we'll dive into the thrilling world of planning surprises, creating spontaneous moments, and fostering a sense of adventure. Get ready to unleash your inner adrenaline junkie!

Sunday, July 9, 2023



You sleep with every single man that comes your way. You can't even remember your total body count i.e the total number of men you've slept with 'premaritally'.

These men you sleep with will never marry you. Never. Even if one of such men eventually marries you, he may have done so out of his own selfish innate interest that he will never declare to you and it most likely will not end well. So why must you keep hurting yourself?

And if you even marry that same man. He knows you believe in and practice sex outside marriage. The next you have in that your marriage is battle after battle. Distrust between you two.

Let me add this, thinking you can change a man after marriage is a naked lie. No adult changes suddenly just like that. Marriage is a great magnifier. What you see is what you get.

You directly or indirectly neglected the good brother for the bad brother because he has money.  Pretending not to see the bad side of him, the womanizing part of him, the cheating part of him, the wicked part of him, the abusive part of him and the negative part of him.
You're only forcing your head into a tight cap that may never be the right fitting for you.

Sunday, July 2, 2023

A Very Touching Story



I receive more than 1,000 letters and mails every month, at office.

All of these letters and mails pass through my own hands.

I stay up all nights reading and responding.

After my promotion.

I had to move into a new office and take over some special duties, coupled with the ones I have already.

I saw written letters that were dumped somewhere inside the new office which no one has opened nor touched.

I wondered how the letters got there.

The envelopes used for the letters were very dusty. About nineteen letters from the same person.

It has same name.

Same phone number.

Same address.

Same request.

And same handwriting.

When our cleaners wanted to dispose them, I told him to bring them for me.

I opened and read one.

It was a letter written to the accounts and finance department of our company by a labourer in November 2019.

The letter was a request.

The worker was humbly requesting the head of accounts department to pay him, that he is critically sick and needs the money for urgent treatment. In the letter, he stated that he had hepatitis which affected his liver.

I read the second letter. It was the same request. Looking at the letters, one will know that it was written with tears. The drops of tears were still visible on it, since the letters were inserted in an envelope.

I read the third letter and saw the same thing.

I read the fourth letter and it was still the same request.

He has been writing and sending in letters since November 2019 and the last letter there was written on 10 August 2020, which the writer stated that the accounts department should have mercy on him and his family and unblock his line and answer his calls.

It was confusing.

Who blocks people's lines here?

I decided to call.

I used my phone and dialed the number on one of the letters I was holding, which was the last letter written on 10 August 2020.

It rang.

No one picked.

I dialed it again.

It ranged again.

Someone picked.

I spoke first.

“Hello,” I said, “Good afternoon.”

“Good afternoon.” a female voice answered. It was the voice of a middle aged woman.

I told her my name and where I was calling from.

She kept quiet.

I told her that I am calling to speak with the person who bears the name on the letters.

She started sobbing over the phone.

“He is lying down here.” She cried.

“Who?” I asked to reaffirm.

“The person you want to speak with.”

“Can I speak with him, please?”

“He can't talk again. He is only breathing. He can't move. He doesn't even know that someone is sitting beside him. I am his wife. We have been writing letters and calling but you people said we should not disturb you people again. Our lines was blocked. His money was withheld. We sent people to you people's office but they came back with nothing.” She cried, “We are just waiting for him to go and rest.”

I couldn't say a word.

I was just dropping tears because of the way she spoke.

She continued.

Sunday, February 19, 2023

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Good afternoon y'all. Hope today met you well?

It's my pleasure to introduce to you all my YouTube Channel and first YouTube video ✌️. 

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Thursday, February 9, 2023

The new found metal in chemistry.


A New Metal has been Added to Chemistry


Symbol: WM

Atomic mass: Light when first found... tends to get heavier with time.


- Boils at any time

- Can freeze at any time

- Melts if treated with love

- Very Bitter if Mishandled


- Very Reactive

- Highly Unstable in moods

- Possesses Strong Affinity towards Gold, Silver, Diamond, Platinum, Credit cards, Debit cards & Cheque books

- Money Reducing Agent.


Mostly found in front of the Mirror.

It's highly flammable and volatile when mixed with mother in-laws.

It has mixed properties when seated with parents. 

 Very harmful to you if she sees you with any element similar to itself!

Only scientists will understand .


Tuesday, February 7, 2023


Right from my school days, everyone who's been around me for a reasonable amount of time will testify to the fact that I chew gum a lot. 

Not necessarily that I love it but I just do.

I developed that urge and habit in my school days because I wasn't one who was given to coffee and the likes in order to have lengthier study hours and so the next resort I had was to rely on chewing gum in order to remain focused and alert.

With time the repeated acts of chewing gum unconsciously became a habit. A bad one at that.😬

Everyone around me complained but who sai. Old habits never die hard... Or do they 🀷

To make matters worse I don't chew the gum with relish sef. If you see the way I chew it, you too will be annoyed 😩. 

I chew gum in such a crass manner with my mouth sounding like a typewriter every one minute 🀣.

You wouldn't believe that even on my wedding day I came to the church chewing the gum that I had deliberately saved for that day. 

My husband noticed my mouth whining and because he had come to know me with it like everyone else, he knew I had gum in my mouth and quickly ordered me to spit it out before our wedding service starts πŸ˜‚.

Tuesday, January 17, 2023

Words on Marble


1. “Beware of the naked person who offers you clothes! Camouflaged murderers

2. “When one’s goat get missing, the aroma of a neighbor’s soup get suspicious”. 🀐

3. “The future belongs to the Risk takers, Not the Comfort seekers!"πŸ€”

4. “A deaf husband and a blind wife are always a happy couple!"πŸ‘«

5. “The first person you think of in the morning, or last person you think of at night, is either the cause of your happiness or your pain!"πŸ˜•

6. “Be careful who you trust! Salt and Sugar are both white!"πŸ™πŸš

7. “Kindness is like butter, it works best when you spread it around!"πŸ˜‰

8. “The walls don’t only have ears, they now see!"πŸ‘€πŸ‘€

9. “Sometimes, you have to play the role of a fool to fool the fools who think they are fooling you!"😁