Best Marriage Advice EVER ... ✍🏾

Below are evergreen 'rules of advice' on how to prayerfully work out the marriage of your dreams 👇👇🙏

1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.

2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling. When possible, try to keep your phone off when you're together with your spouse.

3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the "currency of relationships," so consistently invest time into your marriage.

4. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.

5. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy. And even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.

6. In every argument, remember that there won't be a "winner" and a "loser." You're partners in everything so you'll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

7. Realize that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It's usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.

8. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it's nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

9. Remember that marriage isn't 50/50— divorce is 50/50. Marriage has to be 100/100. It's not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they've got.

10. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you've given your best to everyone else.

Marital Romance: Reigniting the Spark

Table of Contents:

• Introduction • The Importance of Keeping the Flame Alive • Sparking Communication and Connection • Keeping the Passion Alive • Spontaneity: A Secret Ingredient • The Power of Date Nights • The Role of Fun and Laughter • Conclusion

Introduction

Every marriage starts with a spark, but over time, that spark may fade away into the abyss of daily routines and responsibilities. Marital romance is like a delicate flower that needs nurturing to bloom. So, let's dive into the world of rekindling that once fiery connection. Because who needs boring, monotonous relationships, right? Let's bring back the thrill and excitement into our lives! But before we jump into the how-to's, let's discuss why romance is significant and the benefits of keeping that fiery passion alive. Remember, a hint of sarcasm and a touch of humor go a long way in engaging the readers. Let the journey begin!

The Importance of Keeping the Flame Alive

Marriage, the land where love blossoms and passion thrives...or so they say. But let's face it, over time, the spark can fizzle out like a deflated balloon. Suddenly, those candlelit dinners and whispered sweet nothings are replaced with discussions about chores and mundane everyday tasks. Romance, my friends, is the magic ingredient that keeps the fire burning in a marriage. So, why is romance so important, you ask? First and foremost, romance is the glue that holds a marriage together. It brings excitement, joy, and a sense of connection. It reminds both partners why they fell in love in the first place. Without romance, a marriage can become dull and lifeless, much like a black and white movie on repeat. A strong romantic connection also comes with a host of benefits. It boosts happiness levels, reduces stress, and improves overall well-being. The more romance in a marriage, the merrier! Imagine batting your eyelashes and feeling like you're floating on cloud nine every single day. Ah, the bliss! On the flip side, neglecting romance can be dangerous terrain. It can lead to feelings of resentment, boredom, and even a wandering eye. Neglecting romance is like ignoring a plant until it withers away. Don't let your marriage wither away, my friends. Nurture it with love, attention, and a healthy dose of romance. Now that we've established the importance of keeping the flame alive, it's time to dive into the juicy details of how to reignite that spark. So buckle up, folks, because we're about to embark on a journey of love, laughter, and maybe a few whipped cream mishaps. After all, life is too short for bland, spiceless marriages!

Sparking Communication and Connection

Ah, marital romance! The elusive spark that seems to dwindle with each passing year. But fear not, dear reader, for I am here to guide you on the mystical journey of reigniting that long-lost flame. So, grab your partner's hand (unless they're holding a hot cup of coffee, in which case, wait for an opportune moment), and let's dive into the world of sparking communication and connection. Finding time for meaningful conversations is like finding a needle in a haystack, especially when you have busy schedules and endless distractions. But fret not, for where there's a will, there's a way. Try setting aside dedicated time each day to talk about your day, dreams, and desires. And no, discussing your favorite TV show while scrolling through Twitter doesn't count as meaningful conversation. Put those gadgets away and engage in some good old-fashioned face-to-face interaction. Remember, eye contact is not a myth! Now, let's talk about rediscovering shared interests and activities. Remember those hobbies you used to do together before life got in the way? It's time to dust them off and bring them back to life. Whether it's cooking, hiking, or playing board games, find something that both of you enjoy and make it a regular part of your routine. And for the love of all things romantic, please don't choose something that only one of you enjoys (I'm looking at you, golf enthusiasts). But wait, there's more! Trying new things together can add that much-needed spark to your relationship. And no, I'm not suggesting skydiving or deep-sea diving (unless you're into that sort of thing). It can be as simple as trying a new recipe together or exploring a different part of your city. The key here is to step out of your comfort zone and create new experiences together. Who knows, you might discover a hidden talent or a shared passion that reignites the fire in your hearts. So, dear reader, remember that communication and connection are the key ingredients for a successful and passionate marriage. Take the time to have meaningful conversations, rediscover shared interests, and try new things together. And don't forget to sprinkle some laughter and sarcasm along the way (because let's face it, life's too short to be serious all the time). Now go forth and reignite that spark like a flaming phoenix rising from the ashes of daily routines!

Keeping the Passion Alive

Let's dive into the fiery world of keeping the passion alive in a marriage, shall we? Because what's a marriage without a little sizzle and spice? Here are some key points to maintain that steamy connection with your partner. First and foremost, let's talk about embracing physical intimacy. And no, I'm not just talking about a quick peck on the cheek as you rush out the door. We're talking about making time for passionate moments that leave you both breathless, tangled in each other's arms. Take the time to explore each other's desires and fulfill those intimate fantasies that float around in your minds. Trust me, it'll light a fire you didn't even know existed. Now, let's venture into the realm of exploring fantasies and role-playing. Yes, I know it might sound a bit silly or even awkward at first, but trust me when I say it can take your connection to a whole new level. Get adventurous and step into different characters, allowing yourselves to indulge in the playful and seductive side of your imagination. Surprise each other with outfits, scenarios, and a healthy dose of imagination. Who said marriage had to be predictable, right? And finally, let's not forget the power of surprising each other with gestures of affection. It's the little things that count, after all! Leave sweet notes hidden in unexpected places, prepare a romantic dinner just because, or surprise them with a spontaneous weekend getaway. Show your partner that they're still the most important person in your life and that you're willing to go the extra mile to keep the love alive. So, dear readers, remember the three golden keys to keeping the passion alive: embracing physical intimacy, exploring fantasies and role-playing, and surprising each other with gestures of affection. With these tools in your arsenal, there's no doubt that the sparks will continue to fly in your marriage. Now, let's move forward and uncover the secret ingredient for keeping the flame alive: spontaneity. Because who likes a predictable and monotonous relationship? Not us! Stay tuned for the next chapter, where we'll dive into the thrilling world of planning surprises, creating spontaneous moments, and fostering a sense of adventure. Get ready to unleash your inner adrenaline junkie!

ADVICE FOR SINGLE LADIES OF MARRIAGEABLE AGES...

 

You sleep with every single man that comes your way. You can't even remember your total body count i.e the total number of men you've slept with 'premaritally'.

These men you sleep with will never marry you. Never. Even if one of such men eventually marries you, he may have done so out of his own selfish innate interest that he will never declare to you and it most likely will not end well. So why must you keep hurting yourself?

And if you even marry that same man. He knows you believe in and practice sex outside marriage. The next you have in that your marriage is battle after battle. Distrust between you two.

Let me add this, thinking you can change a man after marriage is a naked lie. No adult changes suddenly just like that. Marriage is a great magnifier. What you see is what you get.

You directly or indirectly neglected the good brother for the bad brother because he has money.  Pretending not to see the bad side of him, the womanizing part of him, the cheating part of him, the wicked part of him, the abusive part of him and the negative part of him.
You're only forcing your head into a tight cap that may never be the right fitting for you.

A Very Touching Story

 

*SO TOUCHING*

I receive more than 1,000 letters and mails every month, at office.

All of these letters and mails pass through my own hands.

I stay up all nights reading and responding.

After my promotion.

I had to move into a new office and take over some special duties, coupled with the ones I have already.

I saw written letters that were dumped somewhere inside the new office which no one has opened nor touched.

I wondered how the letters got there.

The envelopes used for the letters were very dusty. About nineteen letters from the same person.

It has same name.

Same phone number.

Same address.

Same request.

And same handwriting.

When our cleaners wanted to dispose them, I told him to bring them for me.

I opened and read one.

It was a letter written to the accounts and finance department of our company by a labourer in November 2019.

The letter was a request.

The worker was humbly requesting the head of accounts department to pay him, that he is critically sick and needs the money for urgent treatment. In the letter, he stated that he had hepatitis which affected his liver.

I read the second letter. It was the same request. Looking at the letters, one will know that it was written with tears. The drops of tears were still visible on it, since the letters were inserted in an envelope.

I read the third letter and saw the same thing.

I read the fourth letter and it was still the same request.

He has been writing and sending in letters since November 2019 and the last letter there was written on 10 August 2020, which the writer stated that the accounts department should have mercy on him and his family and unblock his line and answer his calls.

It was confusing.

Who blocks people's lines here?

I decided to call.

I used my phone and dialed the number on one of the letters I was holding, which was the last letter written on 10 August 2020.

It rang.

No one picked.

I dialed it again.

It ranged again.

Someone picked.

I spoke first.

“Hello,” I said, “Good afternoon.”

“Good afternoon.” a female voice answered. It was the voice of a middle aged woman.

I told her my name and where I was calling from.

She kept quiet.

I told her that I am calling to speak with the person who bears the name on the letters.

She started sobbing over the phone.

“He is lying down here.” She cried.

“Who?” I asked to reaffirm.

“The person you want to speak with.”

“Can I speak with him, please?”

“He can't talk again. He is only breathing. He can't move. He doesn't even know that someone is sitting beside him. I am his wife. We have been writing letters and calling but you people said we should not disturb you people again. Our lines was blocked. His money was withheld. We sent people to you people's office but they came back with nothing.” She cried, “We are just waiting for him to go and rest.”

I couldn't say a word.

I was just dropping tears because of the way she spoke.

She continued.

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As we go to the polls next weekend.

Let's get it right this time around Nigeria.

*Use your vote wisely:*

*#30, 000 minimum wage, no governor went to the supreme court to ensure implementation.

*Local Govt. No governor went to the supreme court to enforce autonomy.

*Non payment of salaries and pension no governor went to the supreme court.

*ASUU Strike for 8 months no Governor went to the supreme court.

*Fuel scarcity...no supreme court.

*Electricity hike; no supreme court.

*Bad Roads....no supreme court order.

*Unemployment.... No supreme court.

*Poverty....no supreme court order.

*Heightened inflation, no supreme court order.

*COVID-19 lockdown which lasted for months, even palliatives ceased/denied, no governor went to the supreme court.

*Now!! No physical cash to buy votes...they remember that the masses are suffering.*

*Ask yourself.... are these govenors really working for your interest????*

*February 25th is a day of liberation By God's grace.*

The new found metal in chemistry.

 

A New Metal has been Added to Chemistry

Name: WOMAN

Symbol: WM

Atomic mass: Light when first found... tends to get heavier with time.

PHYSICAL PROPERTIES 

- Boils at any time

- Can freeze at any time

- Melts if treated with love

- Very Bitter if Mishandled

CHEMICAL PROPERTIES

- Very Reactive

- Highly Unstable in moods

- Possesses Strong Affinity towards Gold, Silver, Diamond, Platinum, Credit cards, Debit cards & Cheque books

- Money Reducing Agent.

OCCURRENCE 

Mostly found in front of the Mirror.

It's highly flammable and volatile when mixed with mother in-laws.

It has mixed properties when seated with parents. 

 Very harmful to you if she sees you with any element similar to itself!

Only scientists will understand .

😂😂😂😂

**THE THING WITH BAD HABITS**

Right from my school days, everyone who's been around me for a reasonable amount of time will testify to the fact that I chew gum a lot. 

Not necessarily that I love it but I just do.

I developed that urge and habit in my school days because I wasn't one who was given to coffee and the likes in order to have lengthier study hours and so the next resort I had was to rely on chewing gum in order to remain focused and alert.

With time the repeated acts of chewing gum unconsciously became a habit. A bad one at that.😬

Everyone around me complained but who sai. Old habits never die hard... Or do they 🤷

To make matters worse I don't chew the gum with relish sef. If you see the way I chew it, you too will be annoyed 😩. 

I chew gum in such a crass manner with my mouth sounding like a typewriter every one minute 🤣.

You wouldn't believe that even on my wedding day I came to the church chewing the gum that I had deliberately saved for that day. 

My husband noticed my mouth whining and because he had come to know me with it like everyone else, he knew I had gum in my mouth and quickly ordered me to spit it out before our wedding service starts 😂.

Ladies let's have some sense

Umunwanyi let me give you a piece of unsolicited advice especially my unmarried sisters. 

You see eh when a man comes for your hand in marriage plead with your parents particularly your fathers not to over-bill or extort from your suitor because you are going to pay for it bitterly one way or the other in the marriage. E get why o!

Put your quest and desire to have the most elaborate wedding particularly at the traditional marriage level stage at bay and hold your long throat. A na eru ihe eru. Don't try to jump the rope of life

Even if he can afford it alone, have some sense and self respect and cut down unnecessary expenses except you are ready to foot the bills of the unnecessary expenses yourself without involving the man. Dem no dey do competition for best wedding. The world doesn't care, all the world cares about is to help you waste the largesse you have prepared for us.

Put yourself in the mindset of the man especially if he is not spiritually grounded, there is no way he will spend that much money to marry you and not see you as one of his acquisitions.

Did you guys know that there are men who value their toys (cars and electronic gadgets) more than they value their wives who is a human being. That is why he won't waste time to abuse you in any manner he deems fit at any given time.

If only some of you wives could be privileged to read the minds of your so called husbands as to how they value you, most of you will weep blood. That is why your voices and opinions never count to your husbands and they even consider it an insult to them because you are no better than one other of his acquired home furnitures.

I'm not saying fight your kinsmen but for goodness sake this is the 21st century and times are hard economically so please make them understand that all that nonsense billing has no benefit especially to you their daughter except they are selling you off into modern day slavery which is what most wives are to their husbands... Glorified house maids

When I was about to get married and my uncles said no this no that, they didn't know that I was the happiest person because my husband and I had more money to save which we later utilized for our first investment as a couple immediately after our wedding. 

Then after the wedding, still beg your immediate family to respect themselves small with their demands even if their new in-law is a money magnet. E get why too.

And then you the new bride you get your ass off your lazy entitlement chair and start to hustle no matter how small so that your respect can be full and all round (you want his family to respect you as well).

Let me stop here for now. But if you didn't take anything home from here remember that most husbands view their wives as a mere acquisition and that is why your opinion is treated harshly with abuse because it is considered as a direct unwelcomed challenge to his unquestionable authority.

Even if you are married to a man because of his monetary wealth and nothing more, try to pretend about it at the beginning in other to gain your respect and then you'd realize with time that there's more to him and the whole concept of marriage than a man's money. Just saying 😔

Business Nuggets For Beginners 101

I came to the realization a few years ago that a paid job whether in the Government’s civil service or in the private sector and no matter how lucrative, big or luxurious the said job might be that working for someone else is not the key to financial freedom which is the innate desire of most adults especially in these harsh economic times.

So I began thinking outside the box and outside my comfort zone. If you have ever been insulted, ridiculed and looked down on because you were broke and financially incapable then by family mainly and friends, you’d understand my pain. And that pain became my kick starter that got me thinking:- What can I do to add to my monthly income? What can I start doing that will earn me a steady second income stream without affecting my day job? 

Due to the fact that I’ve always been a social media dweller, I came online to find my answer. But because I was clueless and without proper mentorship, I began to dabble into a whole lot of things, spending money in a lot of things (or legitimate online businesses) trying to figure out what works but forgetting to figure out that what works for me would be the main deal breaker. 

So I tried my hands on a whole lot of things. You just name it: Network Marketing (on the Longrich Bioscience Business Platform), Affiliate Marketing (on the Digiaffnet Affiliate Marketing Platform), Blogging (I started and built my own blogging site on blogger) and so on.

Some of these investments are still in view and running but I have come to the realization that I am now a jack of all trades but master of none because none is yielding the desired results financially yet and it is all my fault.

Yes, I have to take full responsibility for the success and failure of my life and whatever venture I get involved with. Besides, I have also learned albeit the very hard way that there were some very vital/foundational elements of business that I unknowingly skipped out of both my knowledge base and implementation. Let me share a few of them for us to learn:

Before ever you put in your capital to start any sort of business whether online or offline, make sure you have spent more of that amount of money investing in yourself acquiring as much skill to sharpen the talent and interest in the new area of business, building your knows base, getting meaningful lifetime mentorship. Infact anything that will improve you and your mind first whether or not it puts money into your pocket immediately please and please make sure you acquire such knowledge and mentorship well. You will thank yourself later on.

Similar to the above, get close to mentors that have broken resounding records worthy of emulation in the desired area of business and never let them go.

Copy from your mentors, especially what and what they did wrong in their early business lives, then the lessons they learnt and how they implemented same that later gave birth to the results that is so manifestly evident in them.

Keep on learning, unlearning and relearning as you prepare to start off your own.

Carefully and calculatedly chart your own unique course for originality and possibly greater results than your mentors. They themselves would be proud of whom their wealth of knowledge and experience has produced.

If it is business you ventured into and you really want to succeed and see results, money and wealth grow fast from it YOU MUST AS A NECESSITY MASTER THE ART OF SELLING AND MARKETING YOUR PRODUCTS. It is one thing to have awesome products and services under your sleeves, and it is another thing to really know how to bring them out shamelessly and market them with irresistible offers to your target customers.

For emphasis sake, I repeat: Don’t just know how to sell, become a master at it with unbeatable top notch marketing skills that can stand the test of time.

If it is sweet wealth and automated income as you sleep that is your goal then SELLING AND MARKETING IS THE ONLY ROUTE.

Don’t make the mistake that I made, don’t dabble into so many things at once when you are still in the preparatory phase of going into a business because all of them are sure to fail at once. Find just one high income skill you are keen about and bury your head there in research and acquiring every knowledge there is to learn there.

 Whenever you decide to expand your business horizons and diversify the business into other branches, always go for similar or complimentary business that will still keep you focused on the main or first business venture and can comfortably go with the main business and more importantly, one that won’t necessarily require you learning new marketing or selling skills that are entirely different from what have already mastered. Just simplify your business atmosphere as you aim for greater heights.

From the above, I do sincerely hope that someone out there has been blessed with new insights from these evergreen blueprints that I just mentioned. 

As for me, as the Holy Spirit gave me these revelations, I began to see that the online businesses I ventured into were quite complimentary in nature yes but they were very premature of me as I was initially naïve and unprepared to handle any one.

So now I am on course, I am back on track. I’ve diversified and simplified my business goals, atmosphere and strategies. I’m going to pick one of them for now ( which could mean from now till the next eighteen months), focus on it with all my energy and my heart, then when I have started recording tremendous growth from it, I can now diversify and pick up the others one at a time and at my own pace.

So you my dear friend, what are your plans for 2023 again, how do you intend achieving them and have you gained value from this post. 

If yes please share and let me know. You will be helping somebody’s life as well. 

Thank you so much for your time and see you at the top.

From your Chiamaka Hephzibah Anietoh

Your Legalpreneur.

The circle of life

No matter how long it lives, the Greatest Lion will eventually die miserably. That's the world.

At their Peak, they rule, chase other animals, catch, devour, gulp and leave their crumbs for hyenas. But age comes fast.

The old Lion can't hunt, can't kill or defend itself. It roams and roars until it runs out of luck. It will be cornered by the hyenas, nibbled at and eaten alive by them. They won't even let it die before it is dismembered.

Life is short. Power is ephemeral. Physical beauty is short-lived, I have seen it in lions. I have seen it in old people. Everyone who lives long enough will become weak and very vulnerable at some point.

Therefore, let us be humble. Help the sick, the weak, the vulnerable and most importantly never forget that we will leave the stage one day.

Words on Marble

 ***WORDS OF ELDERS***

1. “Beware of the naked person who offers you clothes! Camouflaged murderers

2. “When one’s goat get missing, the aroma of a neighbor’s soup get suspicious”. 🤐

3. “The future belongs to the Risk takers, Not the Comfort seekers!"🤔

4. “A deaf husband and a blind wife are always a happy couple!"👫

5. “The first person you think of in the morning, or last person you think of at night, is either the cause of your happiness or your pain!"😕

6. “Be careful who you trust! Salt and Sugar are both white!"🍙🍚

7. “Kindness is like butter, it works best when you spread it around!"😉

8. “The walls don’t only have ears, they now see!"👀👀

9. “Sometimes, you have to play the role of a fool to fool the fools who think they are fooling you!"😁

Staying True To One's Self

How can you have your wedding without "professional makeup" or without breaking the bank?

How can you write this exam without "any form of assistance"?

How can you get married without "testing the car you want to buy first"?

How can you graduate from the university without ever tasting alcohol, drugs or going clubbing?

These and many more are the unending voices in our heads compelling us to conform to certain so called societal norms that we are often better off without especially in the long run.

I recently had a heart -to-heart with my 5-year old where he seriously queried and disapproved of my wedding picture hanging on the wall of the sitting room for the singular reason that I put on so much facial make up in that picture and so in his eyes I am no longer the person in the picture as I look like someone else, whereas he knows that mummy (which is me) wears little or no facial makeup on most days.

2023 in practical implementation

Happy Sunday guys!

For those who are still holidaying, the year has started in earnest. Imagine 15+ days off the calendar already. What did you say is your new year resolution and goal again?... You may need to look yourself in the mirror and repeat that aloud to yourself again with a more serious tone.

As for me this my omugwo period is one of sober reflection and re-strategizing especially regarding my being very intentional about creating a passive income that will with time grow to become more steady than my 9 - 5.

Happy New Year and Welcome to 2023

Thank you for an awesome 2022, and we welcome you to a new year of endless meaningful possibilities.

Today, as we celebrate the new year, we remember your unwavering support as we simplify payments.

We know that we exist because you exist, and we will always work daily to earn your trust.

The New Year offers the promise of a new start and an opportunity to reinvent ourselves as much as we need to and be better.

We’ll take this opportunity to continue embracing a winning mindset, and we invite you on this journey through 2023.

Welcome to 2023!

This is to us having an awesome year together

From Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks Blog Team 🧡