A Very Short Story About My Life Now... 🥴😩😰

 

‎I’m in that phase of my life when I have to wake up by 5am and prepare my kids for school runs.

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‎As a lover of my sleep time I recall when I used to be the one being woken up. Breakfast would have been prepared, and we’d get to school before 7.50am, everyday. We were perpetual early comers and this is one trait that has lived with me.

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‎Hubby and I wake up every single day of the week by 5am or earlier to do school runs preparations. Joggling toddlers is no small play, especially those of us with three or more little children. While hubby bath and dresses the kids, I prepare their lunch and feed them/ supervise their breakfast for the one that are morning slow eaters😏.

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‎We get back in the evening to face yet another round of parent duty resumes. I can only breathe a sigh of relief when they go to bed by 8pm or slightly later.

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‎On most days after the children have gone to bed I am extremely exhausted and the only thing my body and my brain craves is my bed and a good night sleep 😔.

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‎The work if parenting is a lot. It’s exhausting sometimes. And this is me who works hand in hand with a man who’s is equally as hands-on as I am.

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TYPES OF PEOPLE YOU SHOULD NOT DATE OR EVEN GET MARRIED TO...

 

DO NOT DATE SOMEONE WHO IS AFRAID OF:

‎✔️The Job or Career Path that you do:

‎So you are a teacher, and he introduces you to his friends as a Nurse, my sister dump him oh..

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‎It will end in tears if you don't.

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‎She's ashamed of the fact that you are a Mechanic, dry cleaner, or you are a Uber driver and makes sure she's not seen at your work place or with you publicly by her friends. End such a Relationship . 

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‎✔️ The Background or Family you come from.

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‎So he or she's coming to visit you, and they're looking at your parents and your family house with disgust and constantly avoiding hugging your aged mother.

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‎She loves your money and current status but doesn't love where you came from.

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‎This type of woman will cut you off from your family after marriage by hook and by crook. 

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‎She is embarrassed to be seen around the area you live in, and so any time you want to see her , it has to b in an eatery. End it in this 2020.

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‎✔️Your Physical Looks (Especially if you have any sort of physical disability or Peculiar challenge).

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‎Don't date anybody who doesn't find you physically attractive and keeps on putting you down privately and publicly because of that. 

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‎One of the ways you know somebody who doesn't love you but has come to date you because of your job, money, fame, out of convenience, or someone who is just confused about what they want in life is the fact that they openly and secretly condemn your looks.

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‎You are too fat, was he blind before he asked you out?

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‎You are too short, what does he now want you to do? To commit suicide?

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‎You are too slim, of all the fat girls out there, why did he come to you? 

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‎Your breasts are too small, didn't he see a Mercy Johnson out there to date?

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‎Don't allow anybody give you high blood pressure just because they are dating you.

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‎Don't allow anybody nag you into ulcer and depression because of physical looks..

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‎True Love accepts You.

‎True Love celebrates You.

‎True Love doesn't cherry pick some aspects of your life that it's comfortable with and then want you to hide other aspects and pretend it's fine with you when it's not ..

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‎You too, if you won't be proud of someone's family/background, job, and looks, don't date them. Don't be wicked by becoming a waster of another human being's time and life 

‎Don't give what you won't take..

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HOW TO ATTRACT YOUR OWN MR. RIGHT AS A SINGLE LADY QUICKER AND FASTER...

 

HOW TO ATTRACT YOUR MR. RIGHT QUICKER AND FASTER...

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‎Some ladies think being friendly with guys will make them think they are cheap so they act aloof or tough to keep their "dignity" and "honour", you may never attract your soul mate that way.

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‎What makes a lady cheap is desperation-chasing a guy who has no single interest in you also makes you cheap, aside that baby, no where are you cheap for God's sake! Loosen up! But always make sure the guy makes the initial moves and chasing, Biko kwa🙏

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‎Being friendly with guys won't make you lose rapture, neither will your virginity disappear because you smile at godly brothers.

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‎Be friendly! Friendly ladies easily attract suitors. Learn to smile. Stop carrying the problem of your lineage on your head! Everyone has problems please, we all must learn to handle our challenges with maturity and grace!

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‎Stop treating guys like trash so they can see you as super high! Stop acting like you don't need a man, you need a man, that is why you are a woman and a man needs you. 

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‎You need a man sweetheart. Be humble, acknowledge it and make yourself approachable, likeable and lovable. If you don't need a man in your life, you won't be envying your friends and siblings who are getting married.

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‎That you made mistakes in the past doesn't mean you should now act cold to show true repentance, no! The Bible says, "A man that hath friends must himself be friendly". If you want men to troop towards you, be friendly!

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‎Caution needs to be taken though, lest your being friendly turns to something else. Set boundaries..

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‎Don't run after a guy that does not respond to or reciprocate your friendliness. Friendship is a two way thing. I call you, you call me. I respect you, you respect me. If you are the one doing all the calls, reaching out, etc, that friendship is sick and you need to re-define it.

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‎With God and adequate knowledge, a blissful marriage is surely guaranteed!

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‎You will not miss it!

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‎Amen 🙏🏾

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“From Misunderstanding to Harmony: How Christian Couples Can Communicate Effectively”

So on Wednesday 1st of October, 2025 my husband and I celebrated our 9th Year Marriage Anniversary and here's one major lesson I've learned so far in my years of marriage so far: 

The Secret Language of Love: Communication Tips for Christian Married Couples"

Discover practical and biblical communication tips for Christian couples. Laugh, connect, and strengthen your marriage with God’s wisdom and humor.”

Picture this:

A Christian husband and wife are in the middle of what we call a “heated fellowship.” He thinks she meant this, she swears she said that. Meanwhile, the neighbor’s dog is outside barking as if to say, “Can somebody please communicate properly in this house?”

Sound familiar? Don’t worry—you’re not alone. Communication in marriage is like WiFi. When it’s strong, everything flows smoothly. But when the connection is weak? My dear, even the simplest “How are you?” can turn into a full-blown misunderstanding worthy of its own prayer vigil.

But here’s the good news: as Christian couples, God has given us the ultimate manual on communication—His Word. And today, let’s laugh, learn, and lean on some biblical truths about talking (and listening!) to each other in marriage.

Why Communication Is the Glue of Christian Marriage.

The Single Woman’s Personal "Sabbath" : How to Rest, Reflect, and Rebuild Before Marriage.

What Does Sabbath Really Mean for the Single Christian Woman?

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‎The "Sabbath rest for singles" is an intentional pause—a sacred rhythm to realign with God's voice. It’s a time for "Christian woman reflection" and renewal.

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‎How Resting Intentionally Prepares You for Marriage

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‎You can’t pour into someone else when you’re running on empty. Rest teaches:

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‎* Emotional regulation

‎* Listening to God

‎* Cultivating inner peace

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‎Spiritual Disciplines to Practice During Your Waiting Season.

Faith, Finances & the Future: Building a God-Honoring Lifestyle While Waiting for Love.

Why Financial Wisdom Is a Form of Spiritual Preparation

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‎Financial maturity is vital for preparing for Godly marriage. As a single woman, the way you steward your income reflects your trust in God. Christian financial stewardship involves tithing, saving, budgeting, and planning without fear.

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‎Saving and Spending with Purpose as a Single Woman

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‎Your money habits now will follow you into marriage. Start by:

Reasons Why You Shouldn't Watch Porn as a Christian and Godly Couple

You can’t claim to be be a Christian couple, and watching po*n to learn sex. No. You can’t learn sex in its holy sanctity as intended by the God you claim to live and serve from depraved demonic expressions. You can’t learn to please God from the devil. Porn is demonic; full stop! 

It is the one of the worst perversion of sex. You’re destroying yourself and your marriage, and that’s unfaithfulness in every possible and impossible way of the highest order. Both to God and your partner.

Often times, we attribute unfaithfulness to one partner cheating on the other. However, watching porn together as a couple or engaging in sexual acts that include a third party, is unfaithfulness to God, because a godly marriage consist of three people: you, your partner and God. 

More like fighting a Godly battle with the devil's strategy or armour.

So in all you do, you must be faithful to Jesus. Because I'm aware of the conversation around porn helping people with their sexual lives, but again I ask, how do you learn how to be clean from a dirty pig?

So how can you a Christian, is watching two or more satanic agents of end time mass destruction committing fornication in such an unrealistic, shameless and distorted way, to learn sex in all its sacredness for implementation in your marriage? This is highly morally inconsistent according to biblical precepts. You can’t save your marriage with the soiled hands of sin.

From Being "Intentionally Spiritually Single" to Becoming " Intentionally Spiritually Prepared": How to Align Your Life with God’s Plan for Marriage.

 

Why Singleness Is a Season of Purpose

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‎Your single season is a gift, not a curse. It’s the time to serve God without distraction and define your personal mission and values.

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‎Creating a Life That Reflects Readiness for Marriage

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‎Ask yourself: "Would I want to marry me?" Become the kind of spouse you’re praying for.

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‎* Develop life skills (cooking, budgeting, time management)

‎* Heal from past emotional baggage

‎* Serve in ministry or community

Becoming Whole Before ‘The One’ Comes Along: Sustainable Living for the Christian Single Woman.

 

What It Means to Live Sustainably as a Christian Woman While Preparing Intentionally For Marriage...

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‎Living sustainably isn't just about eco-friendly habits. For the *Christian single woman lifestyle, it means aligning every area of your life—physical, emotional, spiritual, and financial—with God’s design and purpose. It means stewarding your time, energy, and resources in ways that glorify Him.

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‎The Importance of Emotional and Spiritual Wholeness Before Marriage

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‎Becoming whole before marriage* is foundational. You weren’t created to be "half" waiting for another half. God wants you to be a whole person before entering a covenant. This wholeness involves healing from past wounds, forgiving others and yourself, and finding your identity solely in Christ.

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‎Eco-Friendly Habits that Reflect Inner Stewardship

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A LADY WHO WANTS JUST YOUR MONEY AND NOT COMMITMENT WILL DO THESE:

 

Warning signs of a lady who wants only your money, not commitment:

_Verbal Cues:_

1. Constantly talks about financial security

2. Asks about your income or wealth

3. Expects expensive gifts or outings

4. Uses phrases like "treat me right"

5. Discusses financial benefits of relationship

_Action Cues:_

1. Only initiates contact when needing financial help

2. Spends lavishly, expecting you to pay

3. Doesn't contribute financially

4. Uses guilt or emotional manipulation

5. Prioritizes material possessions

_Emotional Cues:_

1. Lack of emotional vulnerability

2. Doesn't show interest in your feelings

3. Prioritizes financial gain over connection

4. Displays possessiveness or control

5. Emotional unavailability

_Behavioral Patterns:_

1. Has history of financially dependent relationships

2. Uses social media to showcase luxury lifestyle

3. Constantly seeks upgrades or expensive items

4. Avoids discussing long-term plans

5. Flirts with others for financial gain

_Red Flags:_

1. Asks for money or financial favors early on

2. Has outstanding debts or financial troubles

3. Uses manipulative or coercive tactics

4. Disappears when financial support stops

5. Multiple concurrent relationships for financial gain

_Biblical Perspective:_

1. "Love of money is a root of evil." (1 Timothy 6:10)

2. "Do not be yoked with unbelievers." (2 Corinthians 6:14)

3. "Seek first the kingdom of God." (Matthew 6:33)

4. "Godliness with contentment is great gain." (1 Timothy 6:6)

5. "Wise financial stewardship." (Proverbs 22:7)

_Protect Yourself:_

1. Set clear financial boundaries

2. Prioritize emotional connection

3. Evaluate her values and priorities

4. Watch for inconsistencies

5. Seek counsel from trusted friends or mentors

_Remember:_

1. Your worth isn't defined by financial wealth.

2. Emotional connection matters.

3. Mutual respect is essential.

4. God's plan prioritizes love and commitment.

5. Prioritize your emotional and spiritual well-being.

6 Areas of Every Woman's Life She Needs to Build Up Intentionally - Full YouTube Video on My Channel.

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Are you tired of feeling unfulfilled and unsure of how to take control of your life? As a woman, it's essential to master certain areas to achieve success, happiness, and confidence. In this video, we'll dive into the 6 crucial aspects every woman must focus on to unlock her full potential. From self-care and personal growth to relationships and career development, we'll cover it all. Get ready to transform your life and become the best version of yourself!

POV: "FOOLISH NONSENSE": A STORY OF THE SHORTEST RELATIONSHIP I HAD EVER BEEN IN AND HOW THE HOLY SPIRIT QUICKLY STEPPED IN 🙏. A STORY OF HOW DANGEROUSLY THE SHINY THING SYNDROME HAS SO MUCH BEDEVILED THE YOUTHS OF OUR GENERATION .

 

Have you as a Christian lady or even a Guy ever gotten into a relationship out of sheer pressure with no sort of conviction or peace 🚫🤷? 

Well if you have news is you're not alone because I have had an experience of same sort when I was still single so permit me share my story... 

That was my penultimate year in the university and I recently met a fellow brother who attended the same fellowship with me in school at the time. 

As you can also rightly guess, this guy ticked all the boxes of every young girl's fantansies of an ideal man or boyfriend. From good looks to deep pockets (so I heard from people as his reputation and family background) and to crown it all he was a regular in church; meaning he was perfect and The Lord was definitely involved in this right 😂😂😂.

To make matters worse, all my 'close friends' thought he was my "Mr. Right" and so in as much as I knew deep down within me that this wasn't even to be considered how much more getting involved in, I disobeyed my Spirit and God's voice, listened to the noice of the world and considered mundane physical attributes and said yes to a man I knew I had no business letting into my personal space let alone my life; all for what reason.... PEER PRESSURE!!! 

And what was the result? The very moment I said 'Yes'. I instantly felt that something deep and unseen left me and I knew without any shadow of doubt that the Holy Spirit had left me and He took His Peace along with Him as He left.

Brethren I lost my peace in such an uncommon chaotic manner that I could hardly even mention the name of Jesus. To me at that point it felt like I was unclean, and unworthy to even mention His name and that if I did it sound nothing short of blasphemy to my ears.

But Thank God for His Mercies (to whom God will have mercy, He will have mercy and to whom He will have compassion, He will have compassion), and as God would have it; a few days still within that same week our fellowship organized a vigil prayer program (that should be like on Friday or something) and of course I and my new found love attended. (Of course I was obviously pretending that all was well with my spiritual and prayer life).

And right in the middle of the intense worship session, the brother who led the fellowship at the time walked up to me where I stood and whispered into my ears saying that the Lord had told him to ask me why I decided to disobey Him and enter into FOOLISH NONSENSE 😭😭. 

I can never forget His exact words. The Holy Spirit was clearly angry and stern with me that day. I have come too far with the Lord to provoke Him this much 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 and I knew that I had to fix it immediately or else....

Immediately he said those words into my ears he turned and walked away and never spoke to me about it till this very day.

I nearly fainted because I couldn't even feign ignorance of what he was talking about. I was instantly broken in the spirit and I began to cry shamelessly asking God for mercy. 

As soon as the dismissal Grace was shared, without wasting another second, I quickly picked up my phone and sent an it's over between us text to that guy in question without bothering to offer him any reason. All attempts by him to call me back or see me afterwards met with very stiff and rude replies and reactions because I knew this was a battle for my destiny and I wasn't about to play sentimental with it. He knew that I meant it seriously. 

That was obviously the shortest and most meaningless relationship I had ever gotten into. All because I refused to first run a man's proposal through the Holy Spirit first for approval and I listened to the noises of men and their pressure as against the voice of God and the leading of the Holy Spirit. 

I almost made the costliest mistake of life that would have without mincing words led me to some sort of regret or the other (God forbid) had the Lord not scolded me back to correction on time. 

Now that I think over it, I've come to realize that it was the Lord lovingly playing His fatherly role over me by warning and protecting me from impending danger at all cost even when it was I who foolishly decided to defy good sense by first consulting Him before walking down a Wong path that looked shiny to me. 

It also made me to come to a place of gratitude to Jesus who has never left me alone since the day I give my life to Christ. And also to thank Him for giving me a heart of flesh and not stone to listen to Him and take collection when He came to correct and redeem me from my foolishness. 

If you have read till this point and you have a similar experience to share please do so in the comments section so that others can be blessed especially our single brothers and sisters. 

Thank you and God bless you.

Is Achieving Balance as a Wife and Mother Actually Ever Possible

Mastering life as a wife and mother can be a challenging yet rewarding experience. In this video, we'll dive into the essential skills and mindset shifts needed to balance your roles, prioritize self-care, and cultivate a sense of fulfillment and purpose. From time management and communication tips to setting boundaries and practicing self-compassion, we'll cover it all. Join us as we explore the art of mastering life as a wife and mother, and discover the secrets to living a happy, healthy, harmonious and balanced life.

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6 Ideal Traits of a Pastor's Wife

 

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Ever wondered what makes a truly impactful pastor's wife? 🤔 Discover the 6 Key Characteristics of a Pastor's Wife that empower, support, and inspire! This video dives deep into the essential qualities that contribute to a thriving ministry and a strong family.

What are the secret strengths of a Pastor's Wife? 🤫 Uncover the Top 6 Characteristics that define her vital role in the church and community! This video explores the often-unseen qualities of a pastor's wife, from her unwavering faith and supportive nature to her graceful spirit and wise counsel. We'll also discuss the importance of hospitality and resilience in navigating the unique challenges of ministry life. Gain a deeper appreciation for the incredible contribution of a pastor's spouse! 

Learn about the key traits that enable her to effectively support her husband, nurture her family, and serve the church community. We'll delve into the significance of faith, supportiveness, grace, wisdom, hospitality, and resilience in the daily life of a pastor's wife. This is a must-watch for anyone involved in church leadership, ministry, or interested in understanding the crucial role of a pastor's spouse.

Whether you're a church leader, a member of the congregation, or simply curious, this insightful discussion will illuminate the vital role of a pastor's spouse. Don't miss these crucial insights! See you inside!

Telling My Story as a Pastor's Wife... My Unique Experience and Journey So Far

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As a pastor's wife, the journey I’ve walked has been filled with both triumphs and challenges, each moment shaping me in ways I never anticipated. The title of “pastor’s wife” often carries with it an aura of reverence and expectation—one that can feel both empowering and overwhelming. But behind the pulpit, beyond the public prayers and sermons, is a story not often told. This book is my attempt to share that story.

The Behind the Pulpit Story of a Pastor’s Wife: Navigating the Balance of Faith, Family, and Ministry is an intimate reflection of my personal journey. It unveils the complexities of living in the delicate space between being a wife, a mother, and a partner in ministry. It sheds light on the unique challenges we face—balancing the demands of a family with the needs of a congregation, remaining steadfast in faith while navigating moments of doubt, and managing the unseen emotional toll that comes with walking alongside a leader in the church.

In these pages, you will discover my experiences, struggles, and the moments of grace that have helped me persevere. I share these insights not only for those who walk in similar shoes but also for those who wish to understand the heart behind the pulpit—the woman who stands in the shadow of the one delivering the message, and yet is called to a ministry of her own.

My hope is that this book will offer encouragement, understanding, and strength to all who read it—whether you are a pastor’s wife, a church member, or simply someone interested in the complexities of faith, family, and service. This journey is not easy, but it is rewarding beyond measure. Through it all, I have come to realize that it is possible to find harmony between the sacred and the everyday, and that faith, family, and ministry can exist in beautiful balance.

Thank you for joining me on this journey. I pray that you find strength, inspiration, and hope as you navigate your own path, wherever it may lead.Through heartfelt anecdotes, poignant reflections, and sincere revelations, this book offers a glimpse into the often overlooked complexities and blessings woven into the fabric of a pastor's wife's life. It is a tribute to the silent strength and unwavering commitment of these women as they navigate the delicate balance of serving their families, supporting their spouses, and nurturing their own spiritual aspirations.

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Signs That God is Preparing You For Marriage as Soon as Possible

Once upon a time, in a small village nestled among the rolling hills, there lived a young girl named Anna. Anna had always dreamed of finding true love and building a life with someone special. Little did she know that the greatest love story of all was already being woven by the hands of the Master Weaver.

From a young age, Anna had been raised to trust in the unseen hand of God, who had a divine plan for her life. She often prayed for a partner who would walk beside her through life’s journey, sharing in both joy and sorrow. Little did she know that God was already at work, preparing her heart and soul for the love that was to come.

As Anna grew older, she faced many trials and challenges that tested her faith. Yet through it all, she held onto the belief that God was molding her into the woman she was destined to be. With each hardship, she learned to lean on the strength of her Creator and the wisdom of His word.

One day, as the sun dipped below the horizon and painted the sky in hues of pink and gold, Anna met a young man named Thomas. From their very first meeting, Anna felt a connection unlike any other. Thomas was kind, gentle, and filled with a love that seemed to overflow from his heart.

Two Major Secrets That Helped My Husband and I To Achieve Christian Courtship and Ultimately Kingdom Marriage

 Are you a Christian Single Lady or Gentleman who's just gotten into a courtship or relationship with marriage in view for you and your partner and you both desire to enjoy a Kingdom dating process that will ultimately lead to Kingdom Marriage and purpose but you both are wondering how to go about with it then this video is for you. 

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Dear Single Lady Are You Entertaining A Time Waster In The Name of a Long Term Relationship

 Dear Single ladies,

How long do you think is reasonable enough to wait for a relationship to move from one stage to another? That is to transit from courtship/dating to marriage 

I hope you know there is a difference between patience and time wasting🤷🏻? 

In my own opinion I'd say anything between 12 months to 24 months max is more than enough for you to know with certainty the directional compass of your existing relationship.

Notice I didn't use the term years but months because for most serious matured men wanting to settle down and build a home, even as little as one month or less is enough for them to know within them if they want to get married to you someday and it's usually evident in their subtle actions and words from day to day. 

The only problem is that most of us ladies are too carried away with the euphoria of love and being in a relationship with just anyone that we hardly pay attention to signs and details.

Time is of essence to any woman that desire to marry. Let nobody deceive you thereby wasting precious years of your life. 

The Messy Magic of Motherhood: Navigating the Everyday Chaos**

Motherhood: It's beautiful, messy, exhausting, and exhilarating all at once. The Instagram reels often showcase picture-perfect moments, but the reality? It's a whirlwind of spilled milk, tantrums, and never-ending laundry. 

* **The Laundry Monster:** This mythical beast seems to devour mountains of clothes daily. From spit-up stains to muddy footprints, the laundry basket is a constant companion. 

* **The Snack Attack Squad:** Tiny tummies have insatiable appetites. Preparing nutritious meals while juggling demands from multiple children is a Herculean feat.