RELIGIOUS EXTREMISM AS THE BLANKET MASK FOR MOST NARCISSISTS.
Has anyone observed that most Narcissists love to hide under religious extremism? Most Narcissists are usually camouflaged as the best person or even most dedicated religious leaders everyone knows : But then a hideous monster behind closed doors.
They hide under religion to present themselves as who they are not. Religious extremism is a mask for most Narcissists. That way, nobody believes you when you share your story or encounter with them.
They are seen and portrayed as saints outside while behind closed doors, their spouses and kids are living with a demon. They preach about marriage, responsibility, truthfulness, authenticity, love while they possess none of these virtues. They are the "ideal spouse" everyone wish for but a satan for whom their spouse's die of depression while they sleep and snore.
They are cruel to their children. Abusive at home in all forms and shapes of it. At home there is fear. The wife is losing her sanity or the husband is dying and the kids are being broken daily with their abuse and manipulation saddled with cruelty. The spouse is quiet so as not to spoil "God's work". Everyone thinks she is enjoying her marriage while in actual sense she is dying in silence and just smiling outdoors to cover up.
The husband is speaking in religious settings of what he's not practicing. He's even leading youths on marriage and responsibility. The wife is the satan at home who is the best choir leader at church. Its a dysfunctional system. A den of evil where nobody thrives except the Narcissist. Everyone walks on eggshells for fear of what drama and chaos is next.
This is not to say that anyone is perfect or should pretend to be, or that there are no good ones because by the Grace of God, I'm blessed to be married to a great husband who is also a spiritual head, but most times, this pattern of narcissists masquerading as religious extremists has become so notorious/disturbing that someone has to call it out for what it is and put an end to it because most narcissists hide under the blanket of religious extremism to perpetuate their evil. In all awareness is power.
The key to avoiding this evil if you are being wooed for marriage by a religious leader by either gender is to look out for his real character/habits. Like the Scriptures say, "By their fruits ye shall know them".
Marry someone who's actually living what he says on the pulpit at home. If you're careful and observant enough with the Help of The Holy Spirit, you will see enough signs. People can't pretend for too long without showing a glimpse of their true nature, problem is we are often too desperate or in a haste to get married that we miss what we ordinarily ought to detect at the earliest point in time.
© Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks ✍️
Marriage & Family Therapist | Best-Selling Author | Founder, The Three Cord Fold Marriage
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