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Showing posts with label Evidence of Grace. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Evidence of Grace. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 10, 2023

Best Marriage Advice EVER ... ✍🏾



Below are evergreen 'rules of advice' on how to prayerfully work out the marriage of your dreams πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡πŸ™


1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.


2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling. When possible, try to keep your phone off when you're together with your spouse.


3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the "currency of relationships," so consistently invest time into your marriage.


4. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.


5. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy. And even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.


6. In every argument, remember that there won't be a "winner" and a "loser." You're partners in everything so you'll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.


7. Realize that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It's usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.


8. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it's nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.


9. Remember that marriage isn't 50/50— divorce is 50/50. Marriage has to be 100/100. It's not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they've got.


10. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you've given your best to everyone else.

Monday, July 17, 2023

Marital Romance: Reigniting the Spark



Table of Contents:

• Introduction • The Importance of Keeping the Flame Alive • Sparking Communication and Connection • Keeping the Passion Alive • Spontaneity: A Secret Ingredient • The Power of Date Nights • The Role of Fun and Laughter • Conclusion

Introduction

Every marriage starts with a spark, but over time, that spark may fade away into the abyss of daily routines and responsibilities. Marital romance is like a delicate flower that needs nurturing to bloom. So, let's dive into the world of rekindling that once fiery connection. Because who needs boring, monotonous relationships, right? Let's bring back the thrill and excitement into our lives! But before we jump into the how-to's, let's discuss why romance is significant and the benefits of keeping that fiery passion alive. Remember, a hint of sarcasm and a touch of humor go a long way in engaging the readers. Let the journey begin!

The Importance of Keeping the Flame Alive

Marriage, the land where love blossoms and passion thrives...or so they say. But let's face it, over time, the spark can fizzle out like a deflated balloon. Suddenly, those candlelit dinners and whispered sweet nothings are replaced with discussions about chores and mundane everyday tasks. Romance, my friends, is the magic ingredient that keeps the fire burning in a marriage. So, why is romance so important, you ask? First and foremost, romance is the glue that holds a marriage together. It brings excitement, joy, and a sense of connection. It reminds both partners why they fell in love in the first place. Without romance, a marriage can become dull and lifeless, much like a black and white movie on repeat. A strong romantic connection also comes with a host of benefits. It boosts happiness levels, reduces stress, and improves overall well-being. The more romance in a marriage, the merrier! Imagine batting your eyelashes and feeling like you're floating on cloud nine every single day. Ah, the bliss! On the flip side, neglecting romance can be dangerous terrain. It can lead to feelings of resentment, boredom, and even a wandering eye. Neglecting romance is like ignoring a plant until it withers away. Don't let your marriage wither away, my friends. Nurture it with love, attention, and a healthy dose of romance. Now that we've established the importance of keeping the flame alive, it's time to dive into the juicy details of how to reignite that spark. So buckle up, folks, because we're about to embark on a journey of love, laughter, and maybe a few whipped cream mishaps. After all, life is too short for bland, spiceless marriages!

Sparking Communication and Connection

Ah, marital romance! The elusive spark that seems to dwindle with each passing year. But fear not, dear reader, for I am here to guide you on the mystical journey of reigniting that long-lost flame. So, grab your partner's hand (unless they're holding a hot cup of coffee, in which case, wait for an opportune moment), and let's dive into the world of sparking communication and connection. Finding time for meaningful conversations is like finding a needle in a haystack, especially when you have busy schedules and endless distractions. But fret not, for where there's a will, there's a way. Try setting aside dedicated time each day to talk about your day, dreams, and desires. And no, discussing your favorite TV show while scrolling through Twitter doesn't count as meaningful conversation. Put those gadgets away and engage in some good old-fashioned face-to-face interaction. Remember, eye contact is not a myth! Now, let's talk about rediscovering shared interests and activities. Remember those hobbies you used to do together before life got in the way? It's time to dust them off and bring them back to life. Whether it's cooking, hiking, or playing board games, find something that both of you enjoy and make it a regular part of your routine. And for the love of all things romantic, please don't choose something that only one of you enjoys (I'm looking at you, golf enthusiasts). But wait, there's more! Trying new things together can add that much-needed spark to your relationship. And no, I'm not suggesting skydiving or deep-sea diving (unless you're into that sort of thing). It can be as simple as trying a new recipe together or exploring a different part of your city. The key here is to step out of your comfort zone and create new experiences together. Who knows, you might discover a hidden talent or a shared passion that reignites the fire in your hearts. So, dear reader, remember that communication and connection are the key ingredients for a successful and passionate marriage. Take the time to have meaningful conversations, rediscover shared interests, and try new things together. And don't forget to sprinkle some laughter and sarcasm along the way (because let's face it, life's too short to be serious all the time). Now go forth and reignite that spark like a flaming phoenix rising from the ashes of daily routines!

Keeping the Passion Alive

Let's dive into the fiery world of keeping the passion alive in a marriage, shall we? Because what's a marriage without a little sizzle and spice? Here are some key points to maintain that steamy connection with your partner. First and foremost, let's talk about embracing physical intimacy. And no, I'm not just talking about a quick peck on the cheek as you rush out the door. We're talking about making time for passionate moments that leave you both breathless, tangled in each other's arms. Take the time to explore each other's desires and fulfill those intimate fantasies that float around in your minds. Trust me, it'll light a fire you didn't even know existed. Now, let's venture into the realm of exploring fantasies and role-playing. Yes, I know it might sound a bit silly or even awkward at first, but trust me when I say it can take your connection to a whole new level. Get adventurous and step into different characters, allowing yourselves to indulge in the playful and seductive side of your imagination. Surprise each other with outfits, scenarios, and a healthy dose of imagination. Who said marriage had to be predictable, right? And finally, let's not forget the power of surprising each other with gestures of affection. It's the little things that count, after all! Leave sweet notes hidden in unexpected places, prepare a romantic dinner just because, or surprise them with a spontaneous weekend getaway. Show your partner that they're still the most important person in your life and that you're willing to go the extra mile to keep the love alive. So, dear readers, remember the three golden keys to keeping the passion alive: embracing physical intimacy, exploring fantasies and role-playing, and surprising each other with gestures of affection. With these tools in your arsenal, there's no doubt that the sparks will continue to fly in your marriage. Now, let's move forward and uncover the secret ingredient for keeping the flame alive: spontaneity. Because who likes a predictable and monotonous relationship? Not us! Stay tuned for the next chapter, where we'll dive into the thrilling world of planning surprises, creating spontaneous moments, and fostering a sense of adventure. Get ready to unleash your inner adrenaline junkie!

Sunday, July 9, 2023

A Mother's Untold Story



When a woman becomes prΓ©gnant, which is a difficult stage of a woman's life yet she had this confidence that after prΓ©gnancy she will be free and relieved.


After giving birth, nursing her little baby wasn't an easy job. 

She so much looked forward to getting past that stage as a bréÑstféeding Mom

The sleepless nights, anxiety, body pain and general stress was much to deal with but she said again "once my baby starts crawling and  moving around I will be free"


Finally, the baby starts walking and moving about

She heaved a a sigh of relief thinking it will be far easier but she was wrong again


Watching and monitoring the kids so they won't swallow pin or even hΓΌrt their selves while moving about becomes the job of the day


Toddler stage arrives and the shouting progressed


"Don't touch that

"Don't go there

"Don't put that in your mouth

"Don't climb

"Stop running around before you fall

"I will spank you if you tear that book, drop it back 

And then he tears the book and start giggling happily

ADVICE FOR SINGLE LADIES OF MARRIAGEABLE AGES...

 


You sleep with every single man that comes your way. You can't even remember your total body count i.e the total number of men you've slept with 'premaritally'.

These men you sleep with will never marry you. Never. Even if one of such men eventually marries you, he may have done so out of his own selfish innate interest that he will never declare to you and it most likely will not end well. So why must you keep hurting yourself?

And if you even marry that same man. He knows you believe in and practice sex outside marriage. The next you have in that your marriage is battle after battle. Distrust between you two.

Let me add this, thinking you can change a man after marriage is a naked lie. No adult changes suddenly just like that. Marriage is a great magnifier. What you see is what you get.

You directly or indirectly neglected the good brother for the bad brother because he has money.  Pretending not to see the bad side of him, the womanizing part of him, the cheating part of him, the wicked part of him, the abusive part of him and the negative part of him.
You're only forcing your head into a tight cap that may never be the right fitting for you.

Sunday, July 2, 2023

A Very Touching Story

 

*SO TOUCHING*


I receive more than 1,000 letters and mails every month, at office.


All of these letters and mails pass through my own hands.


I stay up all nights reading and responding.


After my promotion.


I had to move into a new office and take over some special duties, coupled with the ones I have already.


I saw written letters that were dumped somewhere inside the new office which no one has opened nor touched.


I wondered how the letters got there.


The envelopes used for the letters were very dusty. About nineteen letters from the same person.


It has same name.


Same phone number.


Same address.


Same request.


And same handwriting.


When our cleaners wanted to dispose them, I told him to bring them for me.


I opened and read one.


It was a letter written to the accounts and finance department of our company by a labourer in November 2019.


The letter was a request.


The worker was humbly requesting the head of accounts department to pay him, that he is critically sick and needs the money for urgent treatment. In the letter, he stated that he had hepatitis which affected his liver.


I read the second letter. It was the same request. Looking at the letters, one will know that it was written with tears. The drops of tears were still visible on it, since the letters were inserted in an envelope.


I read the third letter and saw the same thing.


I read the fourth letter and it was still the same request.


He has been writing and sending in letters since November 2019 and the last letter there was written on 10 August 2020, which the writer stated that the accounts department should have mercy on him and his family and unblock his line and answer his calls.


It was confusing.


Who blocks people's lines here?


I decided to call.


I used my phone and dialed the number on one of the letters I was holding, which was the last letter written on 10 August 2020.


It rang.


No one picked.


I dialed it again.


It ranged again.


Someone picked.


I spoke first.


“Hello,” I said, “Good afternoon.”


“Good afternoon.” a female voice answered. It was the voice of a middle aged woman.


I told her my name and where I was calling from.


She kept quiet.


I told her that I am calling to speak with the person who bears the name on the letters.


She started sobbing over the phone.


“He is lying down here.” She cried.


“Who?” I asked to reaffirm.


“The person you want to speak with.”


“Can I speak with him, please?”


“He can't talk again. He is only breathing. He can't move. He doesn't even know that someone is sitting beside him. I am his wife. We have been writing letters and calling but you people said we should not disturb you people again. Our lines was blocked. His money was withheld. We sent people to you people's office but they came back with nothing.” She cried, “We are just waiting for him to go and rest.”

I couldn't say a word.

I was just dropping tears because of the way she spoke.

She continued.

Sunday, February 19, 2023

Hey Guys! New Video Update

Good afternoon y'all. Hope today met you well?

It's my pleasure to introduce to you all my YouTube Channel and first YouTube video ✌️. 

Click the link and check it out below πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡

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Saturday, February 18, 2023

As we go to the polls next weekend.

Let's get it right this time around Nigeria.

*Use your vote wisely:*


*#30, 000 minimum wage, no governor went to the supreme court to ensure implementation.


*Local Govt. No governor went to the supreme court to enforce autonomy.


*Non payment of salaries and pension no governor went to the supreme court.


*ASUU Strike for 8 months no Governor went to the supreme court.


*Fuel scarcity...no supreme court.


*Electricity hike; no supreme court.


*Bad Roads....no supreme court order.


*Unemployment.... No supreme court.


*Poverty....no supreme court order.


*Heightened inflation, no supreme court order.


*COVID-19 lockdown which lasted for months, even palliatives ceased/denied, no governor went to the supreme court.


*Now!! No physical cash to buy votes...they remember that the masses are suffering.*


*Ask yourself.... are these govenors really working for your interest????*


*February 25th is a day of liberation By God's grace.*

Thursday, February 9, 2023

The new found metal in chemistry.

 


A New Metal has been Added to Chemistry


Name: WOMAN

Symbol: WM

Atomic mass: Light when first found... tends to get heavier with time.


PHYSICAL PROPERTIES 


- Boils at any time

- Can freeze at any time

- Melts if treated with love

- Very Bitter if Mishandled


CHEMICAL PROPERTIES


- Very Reactive

- Highly Unstable in moods

- Possesses Strong Affinity towards Gold, Silver, Diamond, Platinum, Credit cards, Debit cards & Cheque books

- Money Reducing Agent.


OCCURRENCE 


Mostly found in front of the Mirror.


It's highly flammable and volatile when mixed with mother in-laws.


It has mixed properties when seated with parents. 


 Very harmful to you if she sees you with any element similar to itself!


Only scientists will understand .


πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Tuesday, February 7, 2023

**THE THING WITH BAD HABITS**


Right from my school days, everyone who's been around me for a reasonable amount of time will testify to the fact that I chew gum a lot. 


Not necessarily that I love it but I just do.


I developed that urge and habit in my school days because I wasn't one who was given to coffee and the likes in order to have lengthier study hours and so the next resort I had was to rely on chewing gum in order to remain focused and alert.


With time the repeated acts of chewing gum unconsciously became a habit. A bad one at that.😬


Everyone around me complained but who sai. Old habits never die hard... Or do they 🀷


To make matters worse I don't chew the gum with relish sef. If you see the way I chew it, you too will be annoyed 😩. 


I chew gum in such a crass manner with my mouth sounding like a typewriter every one minute 🀣.


You wouldn't believe that even on my wedding day I came to the church chewing the gum that I had deliberately saved for that day. 


My husband noticed my mouth whining and because he had come to know me with it like everyone else, he knew I had gum in my mouth and quickly ordered me to spit it out before our wedding service starts πŸ˜‚.

Tuesday, January 17, 2023

The circle of life

No matter how long it lives, the Greatest Lion will eventually die miserably. That's the world.


At their Peak, they rule, chase other animals, catch, devour, gulp and leave their crumbs for hyenas. But age comes fast.


The old Lion can't hunt, can't kill or defend itself. It roams and roars until it runs out of luck. It will be cornered by the hyenas, nibbled at and eaten alive by them. They won't even let it die before it is dismembered.


Life is short. Power is ephemeral. Physical beauty is short-lived, I have seen it in lions. I have seen it in old people. Everyone who lives long enough will become weak and very vulnerable at some point.


Therefore, let us be humble. Help the sick, the weak, the vulnerable and most importantly never forget that we will leave the stage one day.

Words on Marble

 ***WORDS OF ELDERS***



1. “Beware of the naked person who offers you clothes! Camouflaged murderers


2. “When one’s goat get missing, the aroma of a neighbor’s soup get suspicious”. 🀐


3. “The future belongs to the Risk takers, Not the Comfort seekers!"πŸ€”


4. “A deaf husband and a blind wife are always a happy couple!"πŸ‘«


5. “The first person you think of in the morning, or last person you think of at night, is either the cause of your happiness or your pain!"πŸ˜•


6. “Be careful who you trust! Salt and Sugar are both white!"πŸ™πŸš


7. “Kindness is like butter, it works best when you spread it around!"πŸ˜‰


8. “The walls don’t only have ears, they now see!"πŸ‘€πŸ‘€


9. “Sometimes, you have to play the role of a fool to fool the fools who think they are fooling you!"😁

Staying True To One's Self



How can you have your wedding without "professional makeup" or without breaking the bank?


How can you write this exam without "any form of assistance"?


How can you get married without "testing the car you want to buy first"?


How can you graduate from the university without ever tasting alcohol, drugs or going clubbing?


These and many more are the unending voices in our heads compelling us to conform to certain so called societal norms that we are often better off without especially in the long run.


I recently had a heart -to-heart with my 5-year old where he seriously queried and disapproved of my wedding picture hanging on the wall of the sitting room for the singular reason that I put on so much facial make up in that picture and so in his eyes I am no longer the person in the picture as I look like someone else, whereas he knows that mummy (which is me) wears little or no facial makeup on most days.

Sunday, January 15, 2023

2023 in practical implementation


Happy Sunday guys!


For those who are still holidaying, the year has started in earnest. Imagine 15+ days off the calendar already. What did you say is your new year resolution and goal again?... You may need to look yourself in the mirror and repeat that aloud to yourself again with a more serious tone.


As for me this my omugwo period is one of sober reflection and re-strategizing especially regarding my being very intentional about creating a passive income that will with time grow to become more steady than my 9 - 5.

Friday, December 30, 2022

Every Married Woman Needs To Hear This!!!


Dear married but unhappy and unfulfilled, I have come to give you unsolicited advice πŸ₯΄

I want to address the women in particular as usual. 

You see ehn, marriage is beautiful but you can be in it and feel so sad, left out, and bitter if you don't look out for yourself. 

How can you do that?

πŸ“Œ Self-Love. This means having a high regard for your well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.

Self-love gives you the courage to be assertive, make decisions, and set boundaries in your lives.

Here are some of the benefits of self-love: Increased self-esteem. Self-love is bound up with self-esteem – which is vital for good mental health.

So please, love yourself so much. Be selfish. Put yourself first before anyone. If you don't, you won't even have any love to give. 

My children once asked me who I love the most in the family and I responded "ME". I love myself more than all of you.

πŸ“Œ Self-Care. Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-care nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy, and healthy social interactions.

Buy that hair, bag, shoes, or anything you love to own and can afford without looking back. Don't be stingy with yourself. Some women dedicate so much to their children and spouse while they look haggard. 

Clean up yourself. Your skin, your looks, your smell, and your hair should be in order and you don't have to break the banks to get that done.

Thursday, December 29, 2022

The happiest woman alive


The happiest women* today are not the married ones, neither are they the single ones.

They ain't even those with the most  expensive apparels or gadgets.

They're not the ones with great income or influential backgrounds.

They are not the ones with many degrees bagged from prestigious institutions both locally and Internationally.

The happiest women are the ones who have discovered themselves and are living their lives in total alignment to their purpose and self discovery. 

This set of women don't get bullied or cheaply blackmailed because they don't need your validation. 

They made a deliberate choice to love themselves despite what comes their way. They are not greedy but satisfied and contented with what they can make happen. 

Women who don't play the blame game nor act the victim playlet.

 Their self-esteem is intact with a good sense of self worth. You can't stop them because  they have moved past mediocrity and intimidation. They are not sentimental freaks because they have conquered their anger, fears and bitterness.  These are women who have chosen to leave their past behind and take on the future like the warriors they are

No! you can't threaten them with status because they realized on time, that personal achievement needs no "Title" to be attained!

They realized that they are responsible for their own happiness. 

They are women who have chosen to be defined by virtue rather than status

They DON'T drag POSITIONS with men either because they know that a woman was not born to do what a man can do but she was created to do WHAT A MAN CANNOT DO!

Monday, December 19, 2022

World Cup Final and my take on it.

 



πŸ‡«πŸ‡· | Kylian Mbappe's father in 2018: “At first, I wanted my son to play for Cameroon but, someone at the Cameroon Football Federation charged a sum of money that I didn’t have to make him play. The French didn’t charge anything.”


◾Can you now see how terrible corruption has affected Africa! Imagine all the stars African nations would have had if they didn't ask players to bring money before selecting them to play. I am ashamed!


◾Don't ever blame any player of African origin for playing for and European nation. Embolo was asked for bribe but he didn't have money so he went to play for Switzerland and then he scored against Cameroon and Africans came out to curse him! For refusing to pay bribe!

Monday, December 12, 2022

An Interesting Read on Pregnancy and Motherhood



Did You Know???

That when pregnant, the cells of the baby migrate into the mothers bloodstream and then circle back into the baby, it’s called “fetal-maternal microchimerism”.⁠


For 41 weeks, the cells circulate and merge backwards and forwards, and after the baby is born, many of these cells stay in the mother’s body, leaving a permanent imprint in the mothers tissues, bones, brain, and skin, and often stay there for decades. Every single child a mother has afterwards will leave a similar imprint on her body, too.


Even if a pregnancy doesn't go to full term or if you have an abortion, these cells still migrate into your bloodstream. Research has shown that if a mother's heart is injured, fetal cells will rush to the site of the injury and change into different types of cells that specialize in mending the heart.


The baby helps repair the mother, while the mother builds the baby.

Don't Judge a Situation You Haven't Passed Through



❤️Single ladies should not judge and set standards for married women till they get married because they may become everything they once criticized


❤️I cannot fight a side chick. If I discover my husband cheats on me, I will just leave the house. My dear , Wait till you get there.


❤️How can a married woman look so unkept. Once I marry, I will be looking so beautiful for my husband. My dear wait till you get there 


❤️How can a married woman deny her man s*x ? When I marry I will be having fun with my husband 24 hours. My dear wait till you get there 

Women Please Stop Shaming CS Mothers

 


CS may be difficult, very expensive and sometimes have prolonged healing process and time that can last as much as weeks from all the vaccines administered during the process and so on but one thing is sure, it is a divine life saver for both child and mother especially in cases of difficult or impossible vaginal delivery. 


Don't be foolish and play with your life and that of an innocent baby (ies) that you have suffered for nine whole months to carry with high expectations just because the only Scripture you know off heart and your own misconstrued interpretation of Hebrew women is vaginal delivery only. The statistics of foolish women is no longer funny so refuse to join them.


You the naive family, friend or confused Man of God who is teaching this erroneous doctrine of heresy concerning Hebrew women and leading mothers and babies to an early avoidable grave please in the name of Jesus that you claim to teach this satanic teaching STOP IT IN JESUS NAME. AMEN and please just stop mocking a CS mother. You are not God neither are you better than her because you had a vaginal delivery. Nobody is perfect, tides can also turn anytime and our body make ups are not all the same. Most people don't have the willpower to withstand societal and family pressures.

Monday, November 14, 2022

WHAT LOVE FROM A HUSBAND MEANS TO WOMEN


Are you a Christian husband and you are looking for ways to show your equally Christian wife how much love and appreciation you have for her?

Well below are a few inexhaustible tips for you to make that possible and make your wife really feel loved 😍.

1. Showing pride in the marriage, not hiding her 


2. Spending quality time with her 


3. Responding to her calls and texts 


4. Involving her in making decisions 


5. Protecting her from his family and friends 


6. Being faithful to her; not just sexually but also in his communication with other women 


7. Expressing sexual desire for her to make her feel wanted