I’m in that phase of my life when I have to wake up by 5am and prepare my kids for school runs.
As a lover of my sleep time I recall when I used to be the one being woken up. Breakfast would have been prepared, and we’d get to school before 7.50am, everyday. We were perpetual early comers and this is one trait that has lived with me.
Hubby and I wake up every single day of the week by 5am or earlier to do school runs preparations. Joggling toddlers is no small play, especially those of us with three or more little children. While hubby bath and dresses the kids, I prepare their lunch and feed them/ supervise their breakfast for the one that are morning slow eaters😏.
We get back in the evening to face yet another round of parent duty resumes. I can only breathe a sigh of relief when they go to bed by 8pm or slightly later.
On most days after the children have gone to bed I am extremely exhausted and the only thing my body and my brain craves is my bed and a good night sleep 😔.
The work if parenting is a lot. It’s exhausting sometimes. And this is me who works hand in hand with a man who’s is equally as hands-on as I am.
This brings me to those who’re desperate to be married. While you’re rushing to get married, have you been told about school runs? Are you ready? Your life when they’re young is literally not yours anymore. Those with older kids say that nothing even changes when they grow older.
There are behind the scene realities that nobody tells you about. Marriage is not all about going on dates, eating out, having sex 247, watching movies, chilling together. It’s real very hard demanding work.
Responsibilities yapa for inside this thing we call marriage and parenting. Finances would get strained. You’ve to be up to date with investment and finances. You can not afford to do nothing with your earnings. You’ve to join all them parenting groups to know what others are doing better.
Marriage is hard work. It’s waking up in the mornings to prepare the kids for school, thinking of meals, and juggling an endless list of responsibilities. It’s about cooking, cleaning, and dealing with diapers and potty training too. You become the cook, the cleaner, the doctor, the teacher, and so much more with fewer hours of sleep.
You also can’t afford to decide not to cook, thinking of what to cook is another challenge - for me. You also have to stay up to date with their school work, research educational programs for them, monitor them, listen to them, respond to their calls of your name hundred times in a day.
Add to that the demands of your business or professional work. You have to be a high performer on the job and keep up with your career, all while balancing the constant demands at home.
If you’re single, enjoy this phase you are in now. Be intentional about enjoying the freedom and peace you have. Don’t just stay idle mopping around idly and 'mourning' your single state.
It’s the weekend and while I’m excited that my professional job is on pause for a bit, the rest of my life is still very much active and busy. It’s still more work for us because the kids have lined up activities as well.
I miss those days I used to wake up by 12noon, without a care in the world and decide not to cook or even eat, those days I could binge on my favorite investigation discovery channels all day without a care in the world.
Other mothers, and fathers. Come and share your parenting experience.
©️ Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks
#diaryofmyparentingjourney✍️
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