Friday, December 30, 2022

Every Married Woman Needs To Hear This!!!

Dear married but unhappy and unfulfilled, I have come to give you unsolicited advice πŸ₯΄

I want to address the women in particular as usual. 

You see ehn, marriage is beautiful but you can be in it and feel so sad, left out, and bitter if you don't look out for yourself. 

How can you do that?

πŸ“Œ Self-Love. This means having a high regard for your well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.

Self-love gives you the courage to be assertive, make decisions, and set boundaries in your lives.

Here are some of the benefits of self-love: Increased self-esteem. Self-love is bound up with self-esteem – which is vital for good mental health.

So please, love yourself so much. Be selfish. Put yourself first before anyone. If you don't, you won't even have any love to give. 

My children once asked me who I love the most in the family and I responded "ME". I love myself more than all of you.

πŸ“Œ Self-Care. Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-care nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy, and healthy social interactions.

Buy that hair, bag, shoes, or anything you love to own and can afford without looking back. Don't be stingy with yourself. Some women dedicate so much to their children and spouse while they look haggard. 

Clean up yourself. Your skin, your looks, your smell, and your hair should be in order and you don't have to break the banks to get that done.



There is one person you must never meet in your life, you can meet other people but you must never meet that one person and that person is the person you should have become.

I read in a book sometime ago, that many years ago, Billy Graham was preaching and he is one of the most holiest man in America, but while he was preaching those days, he will be missing his note, if he wants to call Genesis, he will call the book of Daniel, his wife noticed this so after he was done preaching, the wife told him that he was missing lines while he was preaching and the man replied and told her that he suddenly noticed a lady in the audience and that was the lady that refused to marry him because she said I didn't have a future, so immediately the wife stood up and walked straight to the lady, she greeted the lady and said "Thank you for saying no to my husband, because if you didn't say no, I won't be enjoying what am enjoying right now..

Thursday, December 29, 2022

The happiest woman alive

The happiest women* today are not the married ones, neither are they the single ones.

They ain't even those with the most  expensive apparels or gadgets.

They're not the ones with great income or influential backgrounds.

They are not the ones with many degrees bagged from prestigious institutions both locally and Internationally.

The happiest women are the ones who have discovered themselves and are living their lives in total alignment to their purpose and self discovery. 

This set of women don't get bullied or cheaply blackmailed because they don't need your validation. 

They made a deliberate choice to love themselves despite what comes their way. They are not greedy but satisfied and contented with what they can make happen. 

Women who don't play the blame game nor act the victim playlet.

 Their self-esteem is intact with a good sense of self worth. You can't stop them because  they have moved past mediocrity and intimidation. They are not sentimental freaks because they have conquered their anger, fears and bitterness.  These are women who have chosen to leave their past behind and take on the future like the warriors they are

No! you can't threaten them with status because they realized on time, that personal achievement needs no "Title" to be attained!

They realized that they are responsible for their own happiness. 

They are women who have chosen to be defined by virtue rather than status

They DON'T drag POSITIONS with men either because they know that a woman was not born to do what a man can do but she was created to do WHAT A MAN CANNOT DO!

Monday, December 19, 2022

World Cup Final and my take on it.


πŸ‡«πŸ‡· | Kylian Mbappe's father in 2018: “At first, I wanted my son to play for Cameroon but, someone at the Cameroon Football Federation charged a sum of money that I didn’t have to make him play. The French didn’t charge anything.”

◾Can you now see how terrible corruption has affected Africa! Imagine all the stars African nations would have had if they didn't ask players to bring money before selecting them to play. I am ashamed!

◾Don't ever blame any player of African origin for playing for and European nation. Embolo was asked for bribe but he didn't have money so he went to play for Switzerland and then he scored against Cameroon and Africans came out to curse him! For refusing to pay bribe!

Monday, December 12, 2022

An Interesting Read on Pregnancy and Motherhood

Did You Know???

That when pregnant, the cells of the baby migrate into the mothers bloodstream and then circle back into the baby, it’s called “fetal-maternal microchimerism”.⁠

For 41 weeks, the cells circulate and merge backwards and forwards, and after the baby is born, many of these cells stay in the mother’s body, leaving a permanent imprint in the mothers tissues, bones, brain, and skin, and often stay there for decades. Every single child a mother has afterwards will leave a similar imprint on her body, too.

Even if a pregnancy doesn't go to full term or if you have an abortion, these cells still migrate into your bloodstream. Research has shown that if a mother's heart is injured, fetal cells will rush to the site of the injury and change into different types of cells that specialize in mending the heart.

The baby helps repair the mother, while the mother builds the baby.

Don't Judge a Situation You Haven't Passed Through

❤️Single ladies should not judge and set standards for married women till they get married because they may become everything they once criticized

❤️I cannot fight a side chick. If I discover my husband cheats on me, I will just leave the house. My dear , Wait till you get there.

❤️How can a married woman look so unkept. Once I marry, I will be looking so beautiful for my husband. My dear wait till you get there 

❤️How can a married woman deny her man s*x ? When I marry I will be having fun with my husband 24 hours. My dear wait till you get there 

Women Please Stop Shaming CS Mothers


CS may be difficult, very expensive and sometimes have prolonged healing process and time that can last as much as weeks from all the vaccines administered during the process and so on but one thing is sure, it is a divine life saver for both child and mother especially in cases of difficult or impossible vaginal delivery. 

Don't be foolish and play with your life and that of an innocent baby (ies) that you have suffered for nine whole months to carry with high expectations just because the only Scripture you know off heart and your own misconstrued interpretation of Hebrew women is vaginal delivery only. The statistics of foolish women is no longer funny so refuse to join them.

You the naive family, friend or confused Man of God who is teaching this erroneous doctrine of heresy concerning Hebrew women and leading mothers and babies to an early avoidable grave please in the name of Jesus that you claim to teach this satanic teaching STOP IT IN JESUS NAME. AMEN and please just stop mocking a CS mother. You are not God neither are you better than her because you had a vaginal delivery. Nobody is perfect, tides can also turn anytime and our body make ups are not all the same. Most people don't have the willpower to withstand societal and family pressures.

Saturday, November 26, 2022

Where your treasure is there also lies your strength and your heart ❤️

Two rich men living in the same neighbourhood were, one day, robbed of everything they had.

Now left with nothing, one was so depressed, he jumped into the lagoon and drowned. The other left the neighbourhood. Nobody saw him again until months later when he returned. This time, richer than he was before.

When his neighbours saw him, they were astonished. Curiously, they asked, "How did you do that?" He told them, "When those robbers robbed me, they thought they took away all that I had but they didn't know that all that I had was inside me. I don't give the world anything that I have not, first, given myself."

True success is first replicable.

The difference between the two rich men is the understanding that success is not on the things we achieve but on who we become as a result of achieving them.

 No cutting corners.

You have to first, become before you manifest. That's what makes success easily replicable.

Monday, November 14, 2022


Are you a Christian husband and you are looking for ways to show your equally Christian wife how much love and appreciation you have for her?

Well below are a few inexhaustible tips for you to make that possible and make your wife really feel loved 😍.

1. Showing pride in the marriage, not hiding her 

2. Spending quality time with her 

3. Responding to her calls and texts 

4. Involving her in making decisions 

5. Protecting her from his family and friends 

6. Being faithful to her; not just sexually but also in his communication with other women 

7. Expressing sexual desire for her to make her feel wanted 

Wednesday, November 9, 2022






There is a current trend among our brothers and uncles of today. It is quite unfortunate that we focus on the minor at the detriment of the major. 

Don't make the mistakes some of our Fathers,  Senior Brothers and uncles made. Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait till you have hundreds of millions!

Don't wait till you have your own mansion or conglomerate!


 Have kids early so that you can grow with them and that you may be there for them while you still have energy to throw. 

Grow with your kids and succeed with

your wife. You will never finish making money or achieving your plans. 

You might still not succeed at your target year. So, start your life early, with consistency you will grow.

My father said this to me: _When I was 25, I was talking about making billions before I marry.

Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love of my life very early, But my fear was, can I really take care of her? But right now She's married with Four grown up children. 

The guy that married her was still schooling then, but had the courage. They worked hard and succeeded together. I failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see my childhood friends play with their kids. Most of them are not doing as well as me.. But they are happier with their families..

All you need is not money, but rather your Maturity, your

happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life and largely on Jesus who is your source not the mundane things. 

Check all the Fathers of Faith.

Tuesday, November 8, 2022

The Real Journey To Sound Health

Do You Feel Any Of These When You Wake Up In The Mornings 🀷

Tired 😩

Grumpy 😣



Low EnergyπŸ™


Exhausted πŸ˜ͺ


If so, this post is for you.

The best indication of whether you're well-rested or not is how you feel when you wake up in the morning and how you feel throughout the day.

Sleep is a powerful predictor of all-cause mortality. If you get less than five hours of sleep per night, your risk of dying increases by about 12%.

Let's talk about what can happen if you don't get good sleep:

1. Your Cognitive Function will be affected

Your focus and concentration decreases. You will have brain fog. You might also experience low memory and lack of creativity.

Saturday, July 23, 2022

Failure... The surest and shortest route to succeeding in life.

 For many people, the word 'failure' comes with a negative connotation of hopelessness. In fact, today's society particularly the youths don't understand the importance of patience in the journey of life and the necessity of failure on one's road to success. All everyone is after is overnight and sudden burst to success, wealth, fame and so on without realizing the roles time, maturity, chance, mistakes and failure play in forming a whole and completely successful individual.

Even the corporate world needs to understand and appreciate the importance of failure in building both the business structure into a formidable enterprise and the workers/employees (especially young interns) into a strong force that is almost impossible to sink in the global economy. 

Monday, June 27, 2022

Who do you listen to?🀷 The Faith or Fear Determinant.


There is something powerful about the voice of whom we listen to especially on a regular basis. The answer to this question may be the panacea of the many problems that bedevil our society... From the least person to the most influential person.
The person or persons you listen to especially as a heavenly conscious child of God is capable of making or marring your destiny or the part of it that is the subject matter of a topic. 

Imagine being advised by someone who is wayward, has no spiritual compass, doesn't believe in Jesus Christ and the Gospel on matters that concern your spiritual lifestyle.

Imagine being advised by an unrepentant/repeating divorcee who is not willing to make his or her marriage work on how to build your home and live peacefully with your spouse.

Saturday, June 18, 2022

Every great venture started small and as a tiny little dream.

Every king was once a crying baby and every building was once a picture.
The person you admire so much was once a nobody.
The most anointed man you see was once a church member.
The person you attended his or her wedding was once a chief bachelor or spinster. So why worry in life?
It's not about where you are today but where you will reach tomorrow.
Alphabet "O'' which stands for Opportunity, is absent in ''yesterday'' but available once in ''today'' And thrice in ''tomorrow''
So Stay Positive Always and have hope.
Your tomorrow will surely be better than today.
Believe in yourself and never give up. ......The future is bright!
Have a wonderful day

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Friday, June 10, 2022

I've Finally Learnt How To Organize My Time, Plans And Resources. Here's How...

Almost all of us at some point in our lives considered ourselves either to be relatively disorganized or have struggled with keeping our affairs and personal items and properties organized. 

Over the years, I through the help of the Holy Spirit have learnt how to effectively become organized and have tried to always stay organized at all times; and I want to share some lessons I have learnt over time on how to be and remain organized.

Here's is how below πŸ‘‡

Friday, June 3, 2022

Obedience births greatness.

Happy New month everyone and welcome to June, the month of jubilee...

What is obedience in relation to the bringing up of Godly Christian children?  The dictionary meaning of obedience is compliance to an instruction, set of laid down rules, command, law, authority or duty whether from the home, church, school, organized institution, society  and so on.

Bringing it home for us as Children of God, we have an epitome of God's obedience to whom it was counted unto as righteousness... In the person of our father Abraham. 

His entire life and walk with God here on earth from when God called him out of his initial home place and people in Haran up until the birth of his covenant son Isaac was a clear case of childlike obedience, total faith in God and His promises as well as the generational rewards of total obedience to God His Unfailing Word.

Sunday, May 22, 2022

How to effectively handle anger issues in a Christian Marriage.

What is anger to start with one might ask?

Anger is that hurtful feeling of being wronged that causes one to act, react or respond in a rather irrational and often times regrettable manner in a bid to vent, get even or restitute for the wrong he or she possibly suffered.

Anger of all sorts if not properly handled and controlled has devastating consequences on all human relationships including and especially marriage. I as well as many Children of God are battling with dealing with unhealthy anger issues and thank God, in His Mercy that we are conquering into victory. 

When it comes to handling such dangerous traits in a Christian Marriage, then conscious efforts must be made to put the spouse with anger issues in strict accountable check in order to prevent frequent and devastating outbursts that may harm the marriage, home, children or something else more severe.

Friday, May 20, 2022

A must read for every church leader and that includes you!


#AMustRead !

Church, Leaders, Pastors, Friends, pay much attention! 

“So, please, for the love of God stop saying things like this when people need ACTUAL help and ACTUAL advice for their problems and issues.

If someone is drowning because of an issue that is plaguing them such that they cannot even think straight, telling them to "just pray about it" is not what they need in this situation. 

Tuesday, May 3, 2022

What God has brought this testimony of a daughter of His Through

This is a random post about allowing the Grace of God work in and through your life.

I have existed in this world for more than three decades. One thing I have learnt never to take for granted is the grace of God. His grace and mercy brought me this far and are capable to take me to and through my next phase of life. I have also learnt not to laugh at others when I see them not living up to expectation. Now when I see a very fat woman or man, I know that sickness or rejection could have made that person fat.

When I see a prostitute in a brothel, I now see a girl who could have been cruising around town in a good ride and living a good life if she was born into an influential home. I also see a girl who could have been abused severally by uncles and men in the society leading her into that life. I see a girl whose mother could be lying sick at home and she has to make money to save her life and knowing our society, the only way she can do that is sell her body for money since those heartless men cannot give her the money without asking for her body. 

That I am a Christian (even when I know that it is more about the life of Christ in me) doesn't mean I have to look down on a Muslim because a good number of us became Christians because we were born into Christian families. I could have been born to a family in Saudi Arabia where all I know is Islam. As a Muslim, you could have been born into an Irish family where you know nothing about Islam.  

Monday, May 2, 2022

Counterfeit Relationships... Heartbreaks Waiting To Happen.


If you are 'dating' any of these people, then you have fallen for a COUNTERFEIT:

1) A Married Man

2) Your Ex that left you to Marry someone else

3) Your Neighbour who is about to Marry someone else, but has refused to tell you

4) Your Colleague who already told you he is in a Relationship

5) Your Counsellor

6) Your Imam or Pastor

7) A man with no source of livelihood at all and whose financial and psychological problems have suddenly become your compulsory additional burden.

Now the list can go on, but the fact remains that this Category is all about anyone you are dating or investing your emotions on who won't last with you, because they are not suppose to be in your life in that CAPACITY in the first place. 

No matter how real what you get from these set of people are, it will always be a COUNTERFEIT, that's why it's always SWEET when you taste it, but VERY BITTER when it goes down. You will NEVER be SECURE in such love, no matter how much the counterfeit tries. 

Have you noticed your emotion is NEVER stable in that kind of relationship? At some point you are so much in love, and wish it will last, or that the person isn't Married, but please get it into YOUR STURBORN THICK SKULL that the Person you are with, is NOT AVAILABLE!!!

By the way there are lots of Married Men right now parading themselves as SINGLE Men. How do you catch one? He will be too experienced at taking care of you, than a single guy can do, and guess what, that's what sweeps you off your feet in the first place right? Everything seems right, everything is just in place, except that HE IS A COUNTERFEIT! 

Let's look at the Dictionary Meaning of Counterfeit:

1) made in imitation of something genuine with the intent to deceive or defraud; forged

2. simulated; sham: counterfeit affection.

3. an imitation designed to deceive or defraud

4. an impostor; cheat.

What Do Men Really Want πŸ€”?

About a week ago, news broke out on the Nigerian social media space that popular actor and son to Nollywood patriarch - Yul Edochie  openly celebrated the birth of his love child, a son that he has with a fellow actress whom he had recently married as a second wife shortly before the birth of their son. It should be known that the said Yul Edochie was already married to his wife May Edochie and the marriage was blessed with four (4) children. 

This unpleasant news sparked a lot of reactions and comments from people as to what men really want?

It has been agreed that men (without Christ and the fear of God) are polygamous in nature and without proper self control and discipline may one day give heed to display such immoral attitude and as such give room for the devil to have a field day of confusion and destruction in his home, his life and his generations to come.

Sunday, April 24, 2022

Jehovah has done it again.

You’re too big for error.

You’re too wise for mistakes.

You are a mighty God

Perfect in all your ways.

You were here before my first breath,

And you’ll be here when nothing else is left.

You are a mighty God

Forever and always

Oh Oh Oh

You loved me in spite of my flaws

You hold me close in the midst of it all

A present help when I am in need

I’m grateful that You won’t give up on me.

-Travis Greene (Thank you for being God).

I see much love Jehovah.... He keeps proving to me that He is Too Faithful To Fail Me and that He is Ever Mindful of Me.πŸ’•

Tuesday, April 19, 2022

13 Very Important Advice To Christian Parents of Young Children.

Dear parents never you imbibe the satanic/valueless teachings on today's woke parenting. 

As much as possible, replicate your parents training that made you turn out this good and responsible.

You and your partner alone will be held accountable for the upbringing of your children (not social media or whatever) before God and we all know He never listens to excuses.

Let's go back to our core values that made us who we are as a people. 

You owe it to your children to teach them aright early on in life because whether we like it or not, they are our retirement plan/benefits at our old gray years. Don't live in regret and shame then 

Be very mindful of the external influence you allow around your children especially during their formative years.

Whether you like it or not, how you train and bring up your children is everybody's business because your children if eventually ill-bred will meet with and mix up with the children of others who have slaved and paid the price to train theirs properly in the larger society.... 

Don't let your own children to be the bad influence everyone else is avoiding. There is and should be no sentiment when correcting/disciplining your children. 

Don't be deceived, spare the rod and spoil the child is still an evergreen biblical blueprint for bringing up children.... There are no shortcuts about it. Your cane is still your best ally when correcting your child. My late mum fondly called it "papa teacher".

The child you refuse or neglect to discipline today will cause you rivers of tears tomorrow.

If you make excuses for your children's misbehaviours today, you will most likely hire a defense lawyer tomorrow trying to save their heads from being hanged... God forbid 😒

Above all, put God first as you do your own part in correcting the errors this generation has made in children upbringing.... 

Those who have created this Social media platforms hardly let their children on it. Most of their children don’t have phones. You better pick up your smartness.

May God help us all in Jesus Name. Amen

Thursday, April 14, 2022


 For almost all of us adults, we have learned the hard way that life after graduation from school is no walk in the park. The several unforseen and unplanned harsh realities of job hunting in the professional market after school for a perceived dream job can often lead to frustration when that expectation is not met within record time... And most times it doesn't 😩.

After few or many years of unfruitful job hunting, many of us turn to self-employment which is today termed "ENTREPRENEURSHIP". 

Saturday, April 9, 2022


I made a Post the other day, that I will stand with you if you are divorced once.

But will allow you to stand for yourself, if you are divorcing every time.

And someone asked me, if I am encouraging divorce?

In trying not to be seen as encouraging divorce, we actually encourage death.

Between Stay and Die or

Leave and Be Alive, which one is better?

Between Divorce and Death, which one is better?

Leave in Peace is better than rest in Peace.

Only a fool will choose DEATH over DIVORCE.

Tuesday, April 5, 2022



In the Bible, there is no white church, black church, brown church, red church, yellow church. There is only the blood bought church of Jesus Christ. Jesus did not come to save skins, but to save souls.

Most people don't like to choose ONE WAY (Jesus) that leads to heaven. They prefer to choose their own other (false) ways that leads to Hell. I was thinking to myself, why do people choose other ways? Why can't that choose that ONE WAY which is Jesus? The reason why they DON'T want to choose ONE WAY (Jesus) is because of HOLINESS! They don't want HOLINESS! They want to live their way! And that way leads to HELL!

Saturday, April 2, 2022

Here are few Godly tips on how to calm your husband down.

There are days our men come back worn out and maybe displeased due to one thing or the other that happened during the course of his day. Even without him saying it out loud, he hopes and depends on us to apply our feminine sweetness to take all the nastiness away from their beings.

But many at times, we don't even know this and even when we do, we don't know how.

Below are a few useful tips for us wives to help out awesome husbands feel better after such a long day.


Sex has a way of relaxing a man. You will change his mood when you make love to him, especially if you are the one who seduces him and initiates it


If coming home to you is coming home to yet another argument and fight where you explode and turn everything into an issue, he will dread coming home and it hurts when home is a place to run away from, not to run to


Most women want the husband to ask them "How was your day?", "How did you sleep?" "How are you?" yet they rarely ask the husband these. If these questions make you feel cared for, your husband also wants to feel cared for 


A lot of men can be disorganized, especially when they are going through a lot in life or have a lot on their mind. This chaos in their system, dressing, schedule or environment can lead to more unease on their mind. When you help him clear the clutter and attend to some of his needs without him asking, he will think better 

Be the willing and available partner in your marriage.

This πŸ‘† is what it looks like when you're in a relationship and want it to work but your partner isn't willing to take part. 

For a relationship to work, both parties must be willing to change and want to change. Otherwise, you will be considered unequally yoked with someone and will begin to resemble the image below if you try to do all of the work on your own.

Tuesday, March 29, 2022

Protecting Your Heart πŸ’œ as a Child of God.

 In today's world of numerous dating apps and endless break-ups, heartaches and so on, a lot of people are weary when it comes to dating and matters of the heart.

As a child of God, because of our precious and unique identity in Christ and the Holy Spirit, a lot more than carefulness is required of us both spiritually and physically before we start catching feelings and all what not.

The Bible tells us in the book of Proverbs 4:23 to "guard our hearts with all diligence for out of it flows out the issues of life" and that "wisdom is profitable to direct - Ecclesiastes 10:10.

That is why as a Child of God it is over important that we cross check with the One who holds the manual for your life before giving your heart to your intended special person and saying"I DO".

Friday, March 25, 2022

Appreciation is the key πŸ—️ that unlocks the door of Increase

 This picture below was the circulated photo of a vulture waiting for a starving Sudanese girl to die so it can feast on her. It was taken by Kevin Carter, a prolific photojournalist, during the fa mine of 1993 in Sudan. This photo later won Kevin the Pulitzer  prize for an 'exceptional' caption.

Thursday, March 24, 2022

As a Child of God, How Do You Respond Under The Heat of The Faith

Many of us have different threshold levels when it comes to trials and temptations which is why Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ gives us Scriptures to hold on to and confess in those trying times for maximum strength and assured victory. 

Some are cast your burdens on Him for He cares for you.

His yoke is easy and His burden is light

Many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord delivers them of them all

And so on.....

Below is also a very inspiring story to help encourage you that how you react and respond during those trying period really matters a lot and that is why we as children of God must remain steadfast in the faith.

Potatoes, Eggs, and Coffee Beans

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

A short Story.... Failure Is Part of Success.

Have you ever failed before????  I guess we all have at some point in life...

Here's a short Story to encourage someone going through one right now and is not having it easy..


As a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.

He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”

Monday, March 21, 2022

Consistency and Persistence Truly Pays... A Short Story

This is an emergency and interesting story I want to share below πŸ‘‡, and a testimony.

Many of you guys may not know but I got interested in blogging in the year 2012, immediately after my law school and call to the Nigerian Bar. 

Being the inquisitive and enterprising person that I am, I started off immediately as a crass and unrefined amateur who knew nothing about her newly found interest but I had determination and enthusiasm to learn all... or at least enough to get my by in the blog space.

So I checked out the most popular blog - building websites such as Blogger, WordPress, Wix and so on, as well as other sites to see how to design and beautify mine, and after much looking around I settled for the blogger platform because of its several easy to use features. I still use blogger till date and I don't see myself migrating to another anytime soon. I then built my first newbie blog. The first of many...

For the records, this very blog is about my eighth (8th) attempt, so you can imagine how many trials and error has gone under over the years. Even my late parents saw the determination and interest that I had in blogging and had to give in with their reserved support because they never understood it and time (life) wasn't fair to them to make them understand.

The only person who seemed and still seems to understand to am extent as well as support my blogging career is my Dear Husband Pastor John Anietoh.

How To Earn The Respect of People Around You.

 How To Respect Yourself So That People Can Respect You Too.

❤️ Stop looking for who is not looking for you. Minding Your Business is a Full Time Job.. Get Busy With What Puts Food on Your Table.

❤️ Stop begging. 

❤️ Stop saying more than is necessary.

❤️ When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.

❤️ Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours. 

❤️ Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't visit u as well.

❤️ Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.

❤️ Stop entertaining gossip about other people.

❤️ Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.

❤️ Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.

Saturday, March 19, 2022


Waiting has never been easy for any man. It's one of the most difficult things (not many things compare) to do in life......"WAIT".

-Ask Sarah in the Bible, she got frustrated of waiting, she had to force her husband to give the world Ishmael. The world is still paying dearly for that singular act of impatience till tomorrow.😭

-Ask King Saul, he got frustrated he went ahead to do the sacrifice that will seal his doom shamefully forever.

-Ask the children of Israel, they wearied of waiting for Moses and made for themselves idols to their ruin.

ASK RACHAEL.... (my focus this morning).

Rachael was beloved and industrious. She was beautiful and inspiring. Because of her, Jacob set a marriage standard that no man has been able to replicate... Rachel was cheated by her own dad in the name of custom. .... and when she finally claimed her place... her womb was shut.

Sunday, March 13, 2022



1. WHERE ARE YOU GOING TO LIVE AFTER WEDDING? Compulsory! So the guy won't drag you back to his father's house or squat with a friend. Discuss the type of apartment: a room,  room and parlour,  a mini flat,  2 bedroom flat,  3 bedroom,  duplex,  complex,  whatever,  talk,  thoroughly. Don't forget to discuss how rent will be paid. If he has built his house and you are moving in,  excellent.

2. WILL YOU HAVE BABIES IMMEDIATELY OR YOU WILL WAIT? Discuss thoroughly. If you will wait,  find out the best family planning method that will suit your body. Not all injections and pills are suitable for you. Withdrawal is not advisable for first time sex on honeymoon likewise condom. First sex should be done with abandon and also get used to each other's bodies especially as virgins. Singles who are sexually active right now are digging their marital grave. If you are already having sex like mad and taking family planning pills as a single lady,  it is a big shame and a disgrace to womanhood. Marry with dignity. Save sex till your wedding night.


Who will pay the rent,  take care of bills and groceries? Is it the man? The woman or both of you? At how many percentage if it is a joint responsibility? 50/50? 80/20? 60/40? Discuss.

4. WILL ANY FAMILY MEMBER LIVE WITH YOU AFTER WEDDING? Discuss. Who and who will live with you? Why? For how long?  Can you cope having a family live with you immediately after honey moon? Can your type of accommodation allow such? It is not advisable for the opposite sex sibling to live with you after honey moon in a room apartment. It is more dangerous if it is the wife's very mature younger sister. Use your head!

Sunday, February 6, 2022

Imperfect me serving a perfect God


The other day, I was spending time with a friend.  This friend calls herself a Christian, but doesn't always act like it, because some days she's on fire for the Lord, and other days life's struggles seem to get the best of her.

 So, as our eyes met, I really wanted to say something about it to her,  but decided to just let the Lord speak to her heart, knowing nothing I could say could ever possibly have the impact that the Lord making Himself real in her heart would make. 

  So I prayed with her. And after some time passed, I winked at her.... and walked away from the mirror!



Sunday, January 16, 2022

18 Mistakes Most Wives Make.

Marriage is Hard Work!

By the time every marriage goes past the honey moon stage and life begins to take its toll on both spouse (including and not limited to the coming in/birth of children, the marriage goes through some level of stress. 

In this part of the world, the 'burden' of carrying the burden of building a marriage is usually saddled on the shoulder of the wife, and coupled with her business/career/studies vis a vis pregnancy and child birth, she may tend to forget what it means to be sweet, romantic, intentional about herself and so on.

Below I have listed 18 of such lethal mistakes we wives make that tends to spell doom for every marriage.

This makes you and your husband used to not talking and makes you two draw further apart doing major damage to your communication. Even when he does wrong, get angry, but get to talk about it and forgive quickly

 Don't isolate yourself. Have mature friends to surround you, to grow with you as a wife. This makes your life richer, widens your worldview, challenges you and makes you less demanding on your husband's time. Again, make sure the lady friends you keep are of good character. You need fellow women who will stand with you, iron sharpens iron

When your husband reveals to you information and you over react or you become highly suspicious or critical of him, that will discourage him from sharing matters with you in future and he will begin to be secretive, not because he wants to but because he would rather avoid the toxic environment you bring when over reacting. Secrecy opens up a door to many dangers in your marriage.

Monday, January 10, 2022

New Year Friends.... Welcome To The Greatest Year So Far... 2022


Have a sparkling New Year!
New adventures are around the corner. ...
Make way for 2022!
I said this 365 days ago, but happy New Year!
May the new year bless you with health, wealth, and happiness.
Out with the old, in with the new! ...
Here's hoping you make the most of 2022!
I'm super excited for this new year of exceeding Grace, favour, blessings, love, upliftment and the Good Life in Christ. We shall definitely have reasons to testify and celebrate.