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One of the biggest mistakes many couples make is believing that becoming more spiritual means becoming the perfect spouse whereas you are just being emotionally distant.
Some husbands think providing food, paying bills, and leading family prayers is enough. Some wives believe cooking, caring for the children, and attending prayer meetings or church programs together is all that marriage requires.
But marriage requires more responsibility. It needs daily deep connection.
Consider it like daily emotional deposits and withdrawal between you and your spouse; failure of which by either of you will begin to cause fatal cracks in the entire structure of your marriage if not addressed quickly.
Being "serious with God" does not mean you stop flirting with your spouse.
It does not mean you stop holding hands.
It does not mean compliments should disappear from your normal conversations.
It does not mean date nights become unnecessary or worse still history.
It does not mean intimacy should become mechanical.
Many couples are strong in prayer but weak in affection and connection.
Your spouse should not only know that you love God; they should also feel that you love them else you cause an unspoken build up resentment in their hearts towards you first and then to God.
The same Bible that teaches holiness also teaches husbands to delight in their wives and wives to cherish their husbands.
A marriage without romance may survive in the face of the public but it will definitely struggle to thrive and be mutually fulfilling.
Don't allow religion to become an excuse for emotional neglect. Even the scriptures warns against this.
So Pray together.
Laugh together.
Talk together.
Go out together.
Be playful together.
God never designed marriage to be a cold partnership. He designed it to be a loving, passionate, and joyful union.
A sexless marriage though terrible as it is, is rarely the real problem. Rather it is usually the result of deeper issues.
It starts with silence.
Then emotional distance.
Then disrespect, stress, excuses, misplaced priorities, neglect, and pile up of unresolved pain.
By the time intimacy disappears, the connection has already been broken in the heart.
Don’t just ignore it. Fix it fast. Fix the communication, practice intentionality especially with kindness and service always, rebuild the friendship, restore the mutual respect and the rest will follow almost automatically.
Because where there is no real connection, there will be no real intimacy.
Question: When was the last time you intentionally did something romantic for your spouse? Answer that honestly within yourself and see where you need to improve.
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© Hephzibah Anietoh Speaks ✍️
Marriage & Family Therapist | Best-Selling Author | Founder, The Three Cord Fold Marriage.
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