10 THINGS YOU MUST DISCUSS IN COURTSHIP.

 

1. WHERE ARE YOU GOING TO LIVE AFTER WEDDING? Compulsory! So the guy won't drag you back to his father's house or squat with a friend. Discuss the type of apartment: a room,  room and parlour,  a mini flat,  2 bedroom flat,  3 bedroom,  duplex,  complex,  whatever,  talk,  thoroughly. Don't forget to discuss how rent will be paid. If he has built his house and you are moving in,  excellent.

2. WILL YOU HAVE BABIES IMMEDIATELY OR YOU WILL WAIT? Discuss thoroughly. If you will wait,  find out the best family planning method that will suit your body. Not all injections and pills are suitable for you. Withdrawal is not advisable for first time sex on honeymoon likewise condom. First sex should be done with abandon and also get used to each other's bodies especially as virgins. Singles who are sexually active right now are digging their marital grave. If you are already having sex like mad and taking family planning pills as a single lady,  it is a big shame and a disgrace to womanhood. Marry with dignity. Save sex till your wedding night.

3. HOW WILL BILLS BE PAID?

Who will pay the rent,  take care of bills and groceries? Is it the man? The woman or both of you? At how many percentage if it is a joint responsibility? 50/50? 80/20? 60/40? Discuss.

4. WILL ANY FAMILY MEMBER LIVE WITH YOU AFTER WEDDING? Discuss. Who and who will live with you? Why? For how long?  Can you cope having a family live with you immediately after honey moon? Can your type of accommodation allow such? It is not advisable for the opposite sex sibling to live with you after honey moon in a room apartment. It is more dangerous if it is the wife's very mature younger sister. Use your head!

Imperfect me serving a perfect God

 

The other day, I was spending time with a friend.  This friend calls herself a Christian, but doesn't always act like it, because some days she's on fire for the Lord, and other days life's struggles seem to get the best of her.

 So, as our eyes met, I really wanted to say something about it to her,  but decided to just let the Lord speak to her heart, knowing nothing I could say could ever possibly have the impact that the Lord making Himself real in her heart would make. 

  So I prayed with her. And after some time passed, I winked at her.... and walked away from the mirror!

#iamamasterpieceinthemaking

#GodIsStillWorkingOnMe

18 Mistakes Most Wives Make.

Marriage is Hard Work!

By the time every marriage goes past the honey moon stage and life begins to take its toll on both spouse (including and not limited to the coming in/birth of children, the marriage goes through some level of stress. 

In this part of the world, the 'burden' of carrying the burden of building a marriage is usually saddled on the shoulder of the wife, and coupled with her business/career/studies vis a vis pregnancy and child birth, she may tend to forget what it means to be sweet, romantic, intentional about herself and so on.

Below I have listed 18 of such lethal mistakes we wives make that tends to spell doom for every marriage.

1. PROLONGING SILENT TREATMENT WHEN OFFENDED TO SHOW YOU ARE ANGRY

This makes you and your husband used to not talking and makes you two draw further apart doing major damage to your communication. Even when he does wrong, get angry, but get to talk about it and forgive quickly

2. KILLING YOUR SOCIAL LIFE IN THE NAME OF BEING A GOOD WIFE

 Don't isolate yourself. Have mature friends to surround you, to grow with you as a wife. This makes your life richer, widens your worldview, challenges you and makes you less demanding on your husband's time. Again, make sure the lady friends you keep are of good character. You need fellow women who will stand with you, iron sharpens iron

3. OVER REACTING OR GETTING EASILY ANGRY 

When your husband reveals to you information and you over react or you become highly suspicious or critical of him, that will discourage him from sharing matters with you in future and he will begin to be secretive, not because he wants to but because he would rather avoid the toxic environment you bring when over reacting. Secrecy opens up a door to many dangers in your marriage.

New Year Friends.... Welcome To The Greatest Year So Far... 2022

 

Have a sparkling New Year!
New adventures are around the corner. ...
Make way for 2022!
I said this 365 days ago, but happy New Year!
May the new year bless you with health, wealth, and happiness.
Out with the old, in with the new! ...
Here's hoping you make the most of 2022!
I'm super excited for this new year of exceeding Grace, favour, blessings, love, upliftment and the Good Life in Christ. We shall definitely have reasons to testify and celebrate. 

Special Edition: Sourcing For Additional Income Come 2022?? This Post is For You.

 

The world is generally operating on a tough financial economy and Nigeria is somehow worse off.  In order to beat the game and escape the heat of the current financial problems, smart individuals and budding entrepreneurs have began looking within for ways to create more wealth aside the normal 8 - 5 day time job. 

Eschew Envy, Embrace Contentment and Mind Your Business.

 

Have you ever heard of the saying that goes "minding your business is a full time business". Envy is an age long ill feeling of jealousy, covetousness, dissatisfaction, inadequacy, illicit ambitions and all its associated demons... And the father of them is unhealthy comparison and rivalry. 

The Bible teaches us in  Proverbs 14:30; "A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones." ... Proverbs 23:17-18; "Do not let your heart envy sinners, but always be zealous for the fear of the LORD.

Marriage Realities From An African Context

 

Marriages in Nigeria and most parts of Africa are sustained by women. You can argue this with your village deity. Women in general, put up with a lot of bullshit just to make their marriages work. From childhood they have been taught that a wise woman keeps her home. In order to keep their homes, they end up enduring a lot of ill-treatment. 

Find any woman who has been with a man for donkey years and ask her if she would love to marry that same man over again in her next life. Majority would say no. This brings us to the point that most marriages are endurance marriages not happy marriages. Unfortunately, we are told that marital success is about duration. 

A successful marriage isn't about duration but happiness. If two people spend five years together, happily and add immense value to each other; if they decide to break up without fighting about it, their marriage can be rated as successful. Spending eternity together in sorrow isn't the idea of success to me. It is what you do in the marriage that counts not how long.