As a Child of God, How Do You Respond Under The Heat of The Faith

Many of us have different threshold levels when it comes to trials and temptations which is why Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ gives us Scriptures to hold on to and confess in those trying times for maximum strength and assured victory. 

Some are cast your burdens on Him for He cares for you.

His yoke is easy and His burden is light

Many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord delivers them of them all

And so on.....

Below is also a very inspiring story to help encourage you that how you react and respond during those trying period really matters a lot and that is why we as children of God must remain steadfast in the faith.

Potatoes, Eggs, and Coffee Beans

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

A short Story.... Failure Is Part of Success.

Have you ever failed before????  I guess we all have at some point in life...

Here's a short Story to encourage someone going through one right now and is not having it easy..

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As a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.

He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”

Consistency and Persistence Truly Pays... A Short Story

This is an emergency and interesting story I want to share below 👇, and a testimony.

Many of you guys may not know but I got interested in blogging in the year 2012, immediately after my law school and call to the Nigerian Bar. 

Being the inquisitive and enterprising person that I am, I started off immediately as a crass and unrefined amateur who knew nothing about her newly found interest but I had determination and enthusiasm to learn all... or at least enough to get my by in the blog space.

So I checked out the most popular blog - building websites such as Blogger, WordPress, Wix and so on, as well as other sites to see how to design and beautify mine, and after much looking around I settled for the blogger platform because of its several easy to use features. I still use blogger till date and I don't see myself migrating to another anytime soon. I then built my first newbie blog. The first of many...

For the records, this very blog is about my eighth (8th) attempt, so you can imagine how many trials and error has gone under over the years. Even my late parents saw the determination and interest that I had in blogging and had to give in with their reserved support because they never understood it and time (life) wasn't fair to them to make them understand.

The only person who seemed and still seems to understand to am extent as well as support my blogging career is my Dear Husband Pastor John Anietoh.

How To Earn The Respect of People Around You.

 How To Respect Yourself So That People Can Respect You Too.

❤️ Stop looking for who is not looking for you. Minding Your Business is a Full Time Job.. Get Busy With What Puts Food on Your Table.

❤️ Stop begging. 

❤️ Stop saying more than is necessary.

❤️ When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.

❤️ Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours. 

❤️ Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't visit u as well.

❤️ Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.

❤️ Stop entertaining gossip about other people.

❤️ Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.

❤️ Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.

10 THINGS YOU MUST DISCUSS IN COURTSHIP.

 

1. WHERE ARE YOU GOING TO LIVE AFTER WEDDING? Compulsory! So the guy won't drag you back to his father's house or squat with a friend. Discuss the type of apartment: a room,  room and parlour,  a mini flat,  2 bedroom flat,  3 bedroom,  duplex,  complex,  whatever,  talk,  thoroughly. Don't forget to discuss how rent will be paid. If he has built his house and you are moving in,  excellent.

2. WILL YOU HAVE BABIES IMMEDIATELY OR YOU WILL WAIT? Discuss thoroughly. If you will wait,  find out the best family planning method that will suit your body. Not all injections and pills are suitable for you. Withdrawal is not advisable for first time sex on honeymoon likewise condom. First sex should be done with abandon and also get used to each other's bodies especially as virgins. Singles who are sexually active right now are digging their marital grave. If you are already having sex like mad and taking family planning pills as a single lady,  it is a big shame and a disgrace to womanhood. Marry with dignity. Save sex till your wedding night.

3. HOW WILL BILLS BE PAID?

Who will pay the rent,  take care of bills and groceries? Is it the man? The woman or both of you? At how many percentage if it is a joint responsibility? 50/50? 80/20? 60/40? Discuss.

4. WILL ANY FAMILY MEMBER LIVE WITH YOU AFTER WEDDING? Discuss. Who and who will live with you? Why? For how long?  Can you cope having a family live with you immediately after honey moon? Can your type of accommodation allow such? It is not advisable for the opposite sex sibling to live with you after honey moon in a room apartment. It is more dangerous if it is the wife's very mature younger sister. Use your head!

18 Mistakes Most Wives Make.

Marriage is Hard Work!

By the time every marriage goes past the honey moon stage and life begins to take its toll on both spouse (including and not limited to the coming in/birth of children, the marriage goes through some level of stress. 

In this part of the world, the 'burden' of carrying the burden of building a marriage is usually saddled on the shoulder of the wife, and coupled with her business/career/studies vis a vis pregnancy and child birth, she may tend to forget what it means to be sweet, romantic, intentional about herself and so on.

Below I have listed 18 of such lethal mistakes we wives make that tends to spell doom for every marriage.

1. PROLONGING SILENT TREATMENT WHEN OFFENDED TO SHOW YOU ARE ANGRY

This makes you and your husband used to not talking and makes you two draw further apart doing major damage to your communication. Even when he does wrong, get angry, but get to talk about it and forgive quickly

2. KILLING YOUR SOCIAL LIFE IN THE NAME OF BEING A GOOD WIFE

 Don't isolate yourself. Have mature friends to surround you, to grow with you as a wife. This makes your life richer, widens your worldview, challenges you and makes you less demanding on your husband's time. Again, make sure the lady friends you keep are of good character. You need fellow women who will stand with you, iron sharpens iron

3. OVER REACTING OR GETTING EASILY ANGRY 

When your husband reveals to you information and you over react or you become highly suspicious or critical of him, that will discourage him from sharing matters with you in future and he will begin to be secretive, not because he wants to but because he would rather avoid the toxic environment you bring when over reacting. Secrecy opens up a door to many dangers in your marriage.

New Year Friends.... Welcome To The Greatest Year So Far... 2022

 

Have a sparkling New Year!
New adventures are around the corner. ...
Make way for 2022!
I said this 365 days ago, but happy New Year!
May the new year bless you with health, wealth, and happiness.
Out with the old, in with the new! ...
Here's hoping you make the most of 2022!
I'm super excited for this new year of exceeding Grace, favour, blessings, love, upliftment and the Good Life in Christ. We shall definitely have reasons to testify and celebrate. 

Marriage Realities From An African Context

 

Marriages in Nigeria and most parts of Africa are sustained by women. You can argue this with your village deity. Women in general, put up with a lot of bullshit just to make their marriages work. From childhood they have been taught that a wise woman keeps her home. In order to keep their homes, they end up enduring a lot of ill-treatment. 

Find any woman who has been with a man for donkey years and ask her if she would love to marry that same man over again in her next life. Majority would say no. This brings us to the point that most marriages are endurance marriages not happy marriages. Unfortunately, we are told that marital success is about duration. 

A successful marriage isn't about duration but happiness. If two people spend five years together, happily and add immense value to each other; if they decide to break up without fighting about it, their marriage can be rated as successful. Spending eternity together in sorrow isn't the idea of success to me. It is what you do in the marriage that counts not how long. 

YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH

 

Good morning (or whatever time of the day it is in your region of residence). 

 The Lord put it as a burden in my heart to say this to someone here this morning so PLEASE REPEAT AFTER ME AND NEVER STOP PROCLAIMING THESE WORDS OF SELF LOVE AND AFFIRMATION TO YOUR SELF.... 

I AM MORE THAN ENOUGH... 

Understanding the Unique Differences Between The Needs of A Man and A Woman

Intrinsically, the males and females are designed uniquely, their wants defer greatly. It is the understanding of these unique differences in them that brings about a rewarding friendship, union or marriage. When their unique differences are blended harmoniously, it gives God glory. We need to understand these differences God created in males and females.

Furthermore, when we know about our differences in the way males and females think, act and respond, we will hardly have quarrels in interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships with friends, or in male-female relationships and even marriages. In this way we will work cooperatively in fulfilling God`s purposes, and putting the devil into shame.

 

We will be looking at five distinct differences between the desires of males and females.

Ten Common Lies Our Men Tell

 

For most human beings, telling a few lies now and then seems to be a second nature. We all are usually good at telling 'necessary white lies' to either avoid being questioned, attacked or even misunderstood. The men folk are no different as rather than getting into an argument or fight with their we their wives. They'd rather tell a quick little harmless lie to cover up their trail and allow peace to reign. 

A Proverbs 31 Wife

A wife is a woman lawfully and legally married to a man. Every wife is prima facie a woman but not every woman is a wife. The Holy Bible which is the everyday living manual for the Children of God on all aspects of life whether spiritual or physical (including marriage affairs) has spelt out detailed instructions on how marriage as a whole should work if it is to function properly and succeed, the roles and responsibilities of both the husband and wife and how a wife if she is to build up her home and bring favour as well as God's blessings on her husband and entire household must conduct herself.

According to the Bible which is the living word of God, a wife is the only person God calls a helper (or a helpmeet) to another individual (who must be her husband) after the Holy Spirit ( who Himself is God and the third person of the Holy Trinity).

Who are your friends???

I guess the age-long sayings that birds of the same feather flock together and show me your friends and I will tell you who you are were both borne out of the wise realization that one's friends have a lot to contribute to the actualization or abortion of a man's greatness and destiny fulfilment in life. Friends have a very strong influence in each other's lives. They can either be a ladder to climb to success in life or not just pull one down but also bury one's destiny forever.

Bounced Back after a loss

My people how una dey... E don't try no be small. What happened while I was away. Well on my own end I lost my mum on the 7th of May 2019 (last month) her demise officially made my siblings and I orphans (having lost our dad in June 2015, barely four years ago).

Ladies learn how to stop complicating your relationships and lives by comparison

Me and my Husband weeks before our wedding...

And so Jane a bored sit at home wife and mother (who is lazy, idle and loves to gossip), decided to visit Joy her friend just down the street as her children and husband were not at home even without first calling her on phone as courtesy demands. She gets to Joy's doorstep, knocks on the door and is ushered in by Joy who is as idle as she is with so much excitement of having a company at last. Jane is offered entertainment by her hostess and then she begins her fable, boast and 'gist'many (or all)  of which are lies!

"Babe you know we haven't seen each other since my husband came back from jand (i.e a trip overseas or outside the country) last week. Nne eh!, I swear hubby came back with a lot of goodies for me and the kids. It's like he went shopping for us, which is still apart from the shopping trip he promised us to Dubai during ths year's summer holiday. He bought us all sorts of designer clothes you can think of, bags, shoes, makeup for me, underwears and even school stationeries for the kids... That man is just full of everyday surprises for me.

Early Sex Education for your children... Why you must do it!

Parents remember the saying that goes : " Catch them young" refers to all things in life whether good or bad and since we all know that the days we live in are evil coupled with the fact that we have a duty to protect our little ones at all times, I bring to your door step this bombshell: LITTLE CHILDREN EVEN BELOW THE AGES OF TEN ARE NOW SEXUALLY ACTIVE". Many of usparents are too busy pirsuing our careers that we hardly have the time to monitor our kids and spend meaningful time with them anymore. We often leave them unsupervised in the care of nannys, child crae-givers, house helps and maid servants or relatives. The things they see, watchvia television, hear form all manners of sources are therefore not monitored by us. This tends to expose them too early to societal vices such all manners of illicit tele-medias and broad ady light immorality. Some of our kids are even sadly molested or sexually abused by most of these persons whom we push aour parenting responsiblities to for far too long befeore we get to find out.

Core hygenic habits you must teach your child early...

Cleanliness is next to Godliness is a common saying, but permit me to add my own voice by saying that a clean child is a healthy child and a healthy child is a happy child. Since we all want happy children, we as parents, guardiands and child-care givers have a collective responsibilty to teach our children very early on life on the need and importance of cleanliness and maintaining a personal hygiene. In order to acheive this, parents, teachers, guardians and care givers must inculcate very core hygiene patterns into young children in order for them protect themselves from germs, air-borne and water-borne diseases and other illness arising from dirtiness and a poor body and evirionmental hygiene level. Some of these first hygenic training to be taught early to every child are as follows but are not limited to these (you can add more as the need arises daily):

Do You know that Love is a Door Opener

God is love... Every wise person knows that (God is perfect wisdom too). Truly knowing God is knowing that He is love personified and that to truly call yourself a christian and a child of God means that you should love thy neighbour as thyself. This means several things to different people hence the misunderstandind, misinterpretation, confusion and abuse of concepts like the infamous Valentine's day celebration. permit me to emphasize this by giving a short illustartion to explain and buttress my point on love being a door opener and way maker...

A certain woman opened the door of her front yard early one morning after her husband had already left home for work and was surprised to see three old men with long white beards sitting under her oak tree comfortably. In her shock, she gently approached them and inquired of them whom they sought to see (in case there were at the wrong address). To her second amazement, they mentioned her husband's name in full. She then informed them that he wasn't home as he had already left for work, and then asked them to come into the house and wait for him while she quickly sends for him to come home at once. One of the wise men then spoke up on behalf of others saying: "Madam our names are wealth, health and love and we are all brothers but we do not enter into any house/home we choose to visit all at once. Our choice host must pick only one of the three of us while others wait outside or go somewhere else. Whichever one of us is chosen goes in bearing gifts synonymous with his name to that family. That is why we demand to see the head of any household we visit so as to make that choice and decision for his entire family. So please maa'm kindly send for your husband."

Mothers' Day Celebration... How I celebrated it.

 

First of all, even though the actual date has passed, we are still mesmerized by the mood of it; therefore permit me to say happy mothers'day to all mothers, expectant mothers and mothers-to-be.  But the question now becomes, who is a mother? A mother is first of all a woman, even though not all women are mothers. A mother is not just one who biologically births a child; but also one who cares, nurtures, loves, trains, guides and brings up a child.